[cka87]

My T and I always schedule appts through email (I have a weird work schedule and don't always know when I can return at the end of an appt) She always emails back within a day. On Monday morning she emailed "I can see you at 1 this friday if you'd like" and I emailed back to say yes.

Now she always emails back to confirm and then sends out an automated reminder the day before. She never emailed back to confirm and I never got the automated reminder so I guess I don't have an appt this week. The thing is I normally see her every 2 weeks and I asked for an appt a week early this time because I was really struggling and didn't think I could make it 2 weeks. Now I feel so abandoned and let down. I know my email sent...and we've never had an issue before. I'm afraid to email and ask her what happened bc I keep telling myself this is how she wants it, she's done with me and doesn't think there is anything that she can do to help. I feel pretty ****** and alone right now.

[stopdog]

I think it may be that emailing or calling again is the only way to see. Sometime stuff goes into my spam filter, for example, even if I have received from the person before. Or accidental deletion off of portable devices (my dad does this all the time and he does not know how to get it back until one of his children does it for him) and so forth.
For me knowing is always better than speculation, even if bad news (which I doubt this is) because I believe speculation can get out of hand quickly.

[gayleggg]

I totally agree with stopdog. Either call her or email her as soon as possible and get this straightened out. You will feel much better.

[unlockingsanity]

Originally Posted by stopdog

I think it may be that emailing or calling again is the only way to see. Sometime stuff goes into my spam filter, for example, even if I have received from the person before. Or accidental deletion off of portable devices (my dad does this all the time and he does not know how to get it back until one of his children does it for him) and so forth.
For me knowing is always better than speculation, even if bad news (which I doubt this is) because I believe speculation can get out of hand quickly.

I'm fairly well versed with email on my phone, but even I still have the problem that my emails will disappear by an accidental click while it's in my pocket or bag. I'd call just to see. Then you will at least know one way or another instead of all this uncertainty.

[cka87]

how do I say it without sounding like a jerk? and worst of all what if she was trying to just let me go easy and here I am bugging her again like a gnat buzzing around her ear, please noticeeee me!
I just feel insecure and annoying as you can tell

[Wren_]

she offered the time ... maybe she never got your email or something else happened there but sending another one to check is a good idea
otherwise I think your t would have at least sent a message saying the time wouldn't work after all and could you reschedule

[Wren_]

just say something like

I haven't heard back and wanted to confirm our session for Friday at 1pm was going ahead
thanks

[mixedup_emotions]

This happened to me not too long ago. I responded agreeing to a time, and T did not reply back. He ended up not getting my email - so the time slot that I confirmed was given to someone else. Now, I always ask for a confirmation of my email so that I know he received it.

Since this was a bit different from you usually session scheduling, maybe she just entered it in her calendar wrong. You know, a brain fart with her mind still on the 2 week schedule. Just give her a call to reconfirm.

[cka87]

Thanks guys I emailed her and she had me scheduled but the confirmation didn't go through so thanks for convincing me to check with her

[Wren_]

very glad to read this

[Favorite Jeans]

Maybe, if you think you can, talk to her about the tailspin this sent you into? It sounds like there a lot going on there (transference? who else has flaked out on you?) that would be worth exploring.