Do you daydream about having therapy with T?

Sometimes i daydream that I am in therapy and i am telling T about what's on my mind.

No, I don't daydream about that.

I don't exactly daydream, but I do have long conversations with her in my head. Helps me to "hear" my thinking and see myself through her nonjudgmental eyes. Sharpens my wise mind. And makes pretty much everyone around me think I'm nutty.

All the time.

No but I do daydream about making love with her.

Yes, and I've told her many times, because what I can talk about, or the free manner in which I can talk, in fantasy is not the way it feels in therapy. Also, telling her about it has led to being able to bring up things I might not have otherwise.

And when I tell her and she validates my feelings of wanting to be with someone who can be helpful right then, or my feelings of not wanting to be alone with the things I struggle with, or just the desire to have someone to share everyday things with, that validation helps me to understand myself better, to have a clearer understanding of my desires. And when I understand what I want, it is easier to see ways to get that, or to even see ways that I do have it already, even if I want more.

I guess I do daydream about it sometimes. It's like I have 'practice' times in my head about telling him really hard stuff. Kind of picturing the worst case scenario regarding telling him and then trying to assess if that is really reasonable based on my past experience with him, or just what I fear he will say or do.

I have lots of imaginary conversations with my T.

Yes, very often. Both in terms of having imaginary conversations with T, and just picturing being in his office. But mostly I daydream about the talking.

ECHOES, it's interesting to me that you told your T about this, and it's wonderful that you get such helpful responses. I wonder if I could do that.

Yep, I do this a lot.

I've told my T about how I imagine him having conversations with his imaginary supervisor (who is basically Gina from In Treatment). He's usually quite interested to hear what they had to say to each other in my head!

ZING!!!

I used to sometimes daydream about having a Threesome with my Individual Therapist and Group Therapist (in particular after I was leaving Group Therapy).

I think about T all the time and I'm constantly having conversations in my head with T. Sometimes I think about T hugging and holding me, other times I think about getting intimate with T, but most of the time I do daydream about sessions.

yes. And I am not even currently in T. lol. I think it's human nature to desire someone to talk to that understands. When I do it a lot, I get online and start looking for a t, but then I realize the one in my head is much easier to predict.

Yes, "we" have conversations all the time! Sometimes I mention it in real life and the way my therapist responds in my head is quite different from how she responds in reality. Always a learning experience to be had...

Often. I'm one of those people who tends to think through important conversations with anyone I see one coming with. I would guess that is pretty common.

I had imaginary arguments with Madame T.

Same here

No, I don't do that. I actually find it really interesting that you do. Do you use those topics in the daydream as a starting point in your next session?

I daydream about my sessions too. Usually I plan the way I wish they would be but they don't turn out that way. In my head, my sessions are more emotional, and I cry. I can picture myself crying in therapy but it never happens. Sometimes I've told my T how I imagine the session to be, but I don't use the topics as a starting point in my session. For me, it's the emotions I daydream about more than any particular topic.

I talk to T in my head all the time like she is right there listening to me. It just happens now- I don't even think about it. It's very comforting and reassuring. I thought it was strange but now I see I'm not the only one!

Yes i do this all the time. I told her about it, and said that its very unhealthy. This was the first time she brought up transference...

Thanks for sharing this - I relate to this exactly but I have never shared with T (she is very detached/clinical?) but I still daydream about her holding me when I cry and making me feel safe. It will never happen but that's what I ponder!

No. Thinking about talking to the therapist stresses me out. I cancelled for this week because thinking about going was making me sick. There is not a way to practice conversation with the therapist because she never responds the same way twice. I do not experience her as consistent or predictable in a comforting way.

Sort of. Like someone else mentioned, I think/daydream about it in terms of trying to practice saying what I want to say/express during a session. OR...I do it to remember what T has said. It might be something comforting or something insightful that has had an impact on me.