Going to t s house

So I have been seeing my t in her office she shares with another t. At the end of this weeks session she casually says, oh by the way I won't be here next week, my work is changing and I will be working from home.
I kind of freaked out to be honest because I am scared of going to ts house. I have drive by it so many times and wondered what it was like inside and fantasized about t being my mom. This fantasy was safe because it wasn't real but now this fantasy will be coming true (apart from t being my mom of course).
I have such strong transference for her that I am afraid that my feelings will intensify for her.
I am afraid it will be weird and awkward in her house.
Also she answered her phone in session again. It really annoyed me because I was off kilter anyway but that really annoys me.
What if ts house is a pigsty?

She might just end up having one area of her house sectioned off for working-like a study or an office or some other room she doesn't use. You may not have access to the house but only this section of the house..

I think it's rude that she answered the phone in session.

Hugs.

A T I worked with for a year or so worked out of her house. She had a separate area that was for therapy, with a private bathroom and everything so you didn't interact with her house/family.

Personally for me, it was very uncomfortable, and I cancelled a lot of my sessions with her because I just didn't like the home environment, it didn't feel safe for me boundary wise, knowing where T lived, hearing her family upstairs, smelling dinner being cooked.

That said, T was ALWAYS professional and we were never, ever interrupted by anything. If my T repeatedly answered the phone, I'd be done with that one. In fact, a T I had for a while did exactly that, and I left her. My current T has answered the phone once in the three years we've been working together, and gave me a heads up that she was expecting a call and would step out to answer it if it came. I didn't mind that.

I don't think I would like to see a Therapist at his/her office it would seem too personal for me.

This is what I am afraid of is seeing t at home, knowing she has a family that she loves very much and me feeling worse. In the office it's neutral and t is only there for me, maybe I am being selfish because rationally I know t has a life other than being a t but I just want to hold onto that in my head for as long as I can

That was pretty short notice too that she'd be working from home. I wouldn't like it much either for the same reasons others have stated. But, i guess all you can do it try it, you might even end up liking it better?

((((mona)))) big change for you
hopefully her office will be sectioned off and totally private from the rest of the house ... including a waiting area so that it is all kept professional

if it is done properly you won't even be able to know if the rest of your T's house is a pigsty or not and it can hopefully be kept as neutral as possible

i'm sorry she was answering the phone again ... I hope you are able to let her know how much it annoys you and she can find a way to not do that again

this does seem a big change to come without any previous notification regarding working from her home

(i really hope it is a set up a lot better than a physiotherapist I saw recently who worked from home and just had a sheet hung up across a door to separate where i could see her children playing in the next room and husband cooking dinner )

The phone thing would irritate me to no end

My t's cell phone "ring" is now a train whistle. It sounds so funny to be near the top of a hi-rise building and hear the train whistle blow! It's so incongruous that it just makes me laugh now. I don't know how I would feel about someone's house. But then I grew up watching Marcus Welby and the Donna Reed show, where the drs had home offices. I'm still processing now the reruns where it looks like James Brolin is living with Robert Young - did Babs know about that?? Sorry to digress. My pdoc upped my prozac, I think it's making me cheerful. Edging on manic.

The phone thing would drive me potty.

As to going to T's house, I had two sessions with a T who had a consulting room at home and it was fine because I didn't have to actually go through the house, just into the hall. It IS a big change, but I would try to go in thinking you can handle it. And if you can't, well, that's your T's problem.

I wonder if part of the panic is due to the lack of notice given. She should probably have told you more in advance if she knew.

Oh my gosh. You'd think she could afford to put in a door?!

what is a pigsty?

Pigs muck about in a sty, or pen. There was a Chinese restaurant in town a few years ago called Dinersty which was supposed to be a play on the word Dynasty? but I always read it as Diner-sty . They did have goodfood tho so idk...

My therapist works from home. It is a totally separate entrance and everything. It has fueled my maternal transference.

I had a pdoc who worked from his house. Actually, it was a guest house on his property that overlooked the Gulf of Mexico, literally about 100 feet from the water. He had this huge window looking out onto the water that gave a gorgeous view. I didn't care much for the pdoc; he had the personality of a cardboard box. But the view was SO worth it.

With any luck, her office space will be contained to a certain space in the house and I suspect you'll adjust. Try not to anticipate how you'll feel before you actually experience it. That's a sure-fire way to create anxiety that may not be warranted at all.

My husband is a t and works from home.
Our house is just a plain old house.
A t's house is just a house... I hope its not too hard for you to go there.