[purplemystery]

Recently I was walking somewhere and was hit by a car in a hit-and-run. I had to go to the hospital, and it was of course a shocking experience, but thankfully I didn't break any bones and have no severe injuries. I feel like I have spent a lot of time processing the event, so I don't think I need to talk about it. I'm actually wondering if I only want to bring it up with my T because I want to see how much she cares about what happened. Or maybe my wanting to bring it up shows that I think of her as someone to tell life events to, like a friend of some sort, when really she exists for the benefit of my mental health. This incident isn't directly related to my main issues that I go to therapy for. At the same time, this is was a significant event that did cause a lot of intense emotions.

I'm just wondering in general how everyone decides what to talk about, and what to leave out. Do you worry about whether you "should" be talking about something?

Being involved in a vehicle accident is traumatic, T deal with trauma. Bring it up see what she says.

Oh dear, so sorry to hear that purplemystery. Any accident is serious but a hit and run is very traumatic. Of course it is up to you how you spend your time in session and I can see how you have processed all you need to about the accident for now BUT this is serious and while you are currently seeing a t you could save yourself money in the long run by processing it with a professional. They know the right questions to ask to tease the trauma and confusion out of us.
I think you are very brave to be so calm about it all

[unlockingsanity]

My T would say that whatever I am thinking of or want to talk about is what is important to talk about. So, if you want to talk about it, I say yes, you should.

[purplemystery]

Thanks everyone. I guess I will, and I'm probably thinking way too much into it. I get very paranoid about her thinking that I am telling her things beyond the therapist role. Not that I do... I don't know, I just am very cautious about showing how much the relationship with her means to me.

[deepestwaters40]

Sometimes I feel like I have a lot of issues so I try and stick with what seems like is most "important"...the more difficult issues I need help sorting out. If you think it's pressing and it's something you need extra help with then go for it. If it's more that you want her to know to see how she'll react and if she cares you may want to explore that further...like why you would want to know how she would feel toward you about it. If it's just casual in telling her like she's s friend I don't see the harm.

I talk about anything and everything. Definitely ok to talk to yr t about.

[purplemystery]

Originally Posted by deepestwaters40

Sometimes I feel like I have a lot of issues so I try and stick with what seems like is most "important"...the more difficult issues I need help sorting out. If you think it's pressing and it's something you need extra help with then go for it. If it's more that you want her to know to see how she'll react and if she cares you may want to explore that further...like why you would want to know how she would feel toward you about it. If it's just casual in telling her like she's s friend I don't see the harm.

Yeah, I don't think that I need to talk about it, but I think I still will since it's a fairly big thing that happened. It's possible that when I actually talk about it with her, I might re-experience things and get closure with it in a way that talking with a friend can't accomplish. And maybe I'll bring it up with her that I wasn't totally sure that I should talk about it, which may be a useful conversation in itself.

[deepestwaters40]

Originally Posted by purplemystery

Yeah, I don't think that I need to talk about it, but I think I still will since it's a fairly big thing that happened. It's possible that when I actually talk about it with her, I might re-experience things and get closure with it in a way that talking with a friend can't accomplish. And maybe I'll bring it up with her that I wasn't totally sure that I should talk about it, which may be a useful conversation in itself.

Yeah I think it's worth mentioning that you weren't sure if you should talk to her about it. She may be able to help you figure that out ...and work through the trauma of course...sorry about that btw!

[jacq10]

I don't believe in "shoulding" in therapy! It's your session and you can talk about whatever you like! It's not something you can fail at, and if your T makes you feel like you can fail at it, than that's a whole other level of discussion that you can have

[stopdog]

I was hit on my motorcycle a few months ago. I had a concussion and screwed up my hand but no serious injuries. The therapist (and my acupuncturist) keep telling me it was a real thing, and my nightmares and fear around it are not unusual and are serious. I would think talking to the therapist about it would be a good idea. I also went to see a cranial sacral energy practitioner over it= for me it helped.

[purplemystery]

Originally Posted by jacq10

I don't believe in "shoulding" in therapy! It's your session and you can talk about whatever you like! It's not something you can fail at, and if your T makes you feel like you can fail at it, than that's a whole other level of discussion that you can have

That's an interesting thought, and actually very relevant to me. I truly do think that I can fail at therapy. I get very disappointed and frustrated with myself if I don't act in the way that I think I should. Maybe that is something I should talk about. Thanks for that!

[purplemystery]

Originally Posted by stopdog

I was hit on my motorcycle a few months ago. I had a concussion and screwed up my hand but no serious injuries. The therapist (and my acupuncturist) keep telling me it was a real thing, and my nightmares and fear around it are not unusual and are serious. I would think talking to the therapist about it would be a good idea. I also went to see a cranial sacral energy practitioner over it= for me it helped.

Thanks for sharing your experience stopdog, and I'm really sorry to hear that!