I was in therapy for a couple years. Then I moved and took a break to see if I would do ok without it, plus I couldn't afford it.

I just started with a new therapist and it seems like I am starting over again with trust and feelings, etc. I thought I would move more quickly and some things would be settled.
It seems that some things are "replaying"...

Does this happen when you start with a new therapist?
Does it mean the old therapy did nothing?

[unlockingsanity]

Originally Posted by Tollhouse

I was in therapy for a couple years. Then I moved and took a break to see if I would do ok without it, plus I couldn't afford it.

I just started with a new therapist and it seems like I am starting over again with trust and feelings, etc. I thought I would move more quickly and some things would be settled.
It seems that some things are "replaying"...

Does this happen when you start with a new therapist?
Does it mean the old therapy did nothing?

Yes, there will be overlap. Chances are you will move through certain things a bit faster that you've already addressed, though. It doesn't mean your past therapy was a waste, though it can feel like that.

Maybe you are 'replaying' the things that 'need' to be replayed?

I have started seeing a second therapist, but I'm not finding this at all - there doesn't seem to be any overlap or 'starting over', or learning to trust - in fact it almost seems too easy. But, then, I have sought his support for a different reason, and I don't need (or want) the same type of therapeutic relationship or kind of dynamic with him that I have with the first T. If therapy had ended badly or unfinished with the first T, then maybe I would have sought out (whether consciously or unconsciously) the type of therapist with whom a pattern or dynamic might be re-enacted? Whether that involve attachment issues, transference, trust... ?

Might not be a bad thing, is what I'm trying to say!

[tinyrabbit]

I would still expect to go through certain things at the start. It's like getting divorced and dating again - you still have to get to know each other.