[GenCat]

I feel like I'm not benefitting from therapy anymore. What do I do? I don't want to just quit, there has to be another option.

[BlessedRhiannon]

Have you talked to your T about how you're feeling? I think that would be the first step. Maybe they will have some ideas of new ways to approach things.

[unaluna]

That's how I was feeling recently. I felt like just going was too much of an effort. Then for a while my t had been saying, what can I do to help you - like on x goal? So now my therapy has a different look and feel, because my life does, and so t is like half life coach, half psychoanalyst.

[unlockingsanity]

Originally Posted by GenCat

I feel like I'm not benefitting from therapy anymore. What do I do? I don't want to just quit, there has to be another option.

Do you know why you aren't benefiting? Have you reached a wall? Lost trust in your therapist?

Maybe you need a different approach?

[tinyrabbit]

What you need to do is try to appreciate that you can't always tell if you're benefiting from therapy - and talk to your T about it!

[haier]

Definitely talk to your therapist about it. I've been in therapy for 9mo and I felt the same. I talked about it with my therapist over and over and over. I didn't quit and am so glad I didn't! Honestly I'm just starting to see my growth..probably just the last 3 sessions. But you have to talk about it...

[GenCat]

Originally Posted by unlockingsanity

Do you know why you aren't benefiting? Have you reached a wall? Lost trust in your therapist?

Maybe you need a different approach?

I just feel like its not helping, not because I have lost trust, but lost interest in therapy and its ways.

[wotchermuggle]

Maybe a break could be helpful? Have you told your T how you feel?

I think that too can be looked at within the therapy.

[QuietCat]

I'm in the same spot.
Been seeing T for 3 years. Beginning to think I'm just never going to be where I want to be, and T isn't going to help me get there no matter how he tries.

[Perna]

What do you want? Do you have any ideas or dreams of what you would like your life to be like. I have found friends and acquaintances whose manner I have liked the looks of and tried to understand and sort of copy the way they did things.

For example, I liked how a coworker talked to her sometimes difficult elderly mother on the phone so I thought about that, how patient she was, how she listened, how she rewarded her mother with positive, affirming remarks to keep the conversation positive, things like that. She did not seem to make negative assumptions about her mother's words and expressions but accepted them as valid for her mother.

There were times when I copied my T too, or have paid attention to my husband and how he interacts with others. I think there is a lot one can get going just paying more attention to how others do things when we realize we are drawn to their ways of being.

[0w6c379]

If you want to stay in therapy, do so. No need to put pressure on yourself because you are not "transformed" into whatever you think you "should" be doing or not doing yet. Perhaps you could ask T to recommend a good book that he thinks you might benefit from?