[Daeva]

So today I went to my counselor and got her advice on what happened with my T (I feel like she hurt my feelings for making me feel guilty for not doing my hw and what not you can read about that in my thread "What to do with this")

ANYWAY
My feelings weree really hurt because I already felt guilty and worthless and useless, and then she made me feel so much worse and my thought process was, "She's beginning to see how worthless and useless I am now too. Great." and what not, so I went to my counselor and told her my feelings and she offered her perspective saying my T was trying to motivate me, and that there was such a thing as Good Guilt, which I didn't understand. And that she was trying to help me, and i actually can see that now! But I didn't at the moment so I left confused but thinking a bit. THEN THEN later today I am sitting journaling and I just say out, "Well you know what then? I'm just not going to give my T anything to make me feel guilty over anymore!" And i began to do my homework. Go figure!!!! She knew exactly what she was doing and no more hurt feelings, just complete utter amazed respect for my T!!!!!!

Thanks my wonderful T. I could cry with gratefulness!

I am glad you could see it from another perspective... Sometimes its helpful if we can learn to share with your t the feelings you experience with her because it can tell T a lot about you and help her understand you. So I would be sure to talk to t about it all.

Sometimes the effectiveness of therapy is diminished if there becomes a triangulated relationship

[Daeva]

Originally Posted by Readytostop

I am glad you could see it from another perspective... Sometimes its helpful if we can learn to share with your t the feelings you experience with her because it can tell T a lot about you and help her understand you. So I would be sure to talk to t about it all.

Sometimes the effectiveness of therapy is diminished if there becomes a triangulated relationship

Ah I didn't know that it can make it more complicated, I will talk to her about it.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by Daeva

So today I went to my counselor and got her advice on what happened with my T (I feel like she hurt my feelings for making me feel guilty for not doing my hw and what not you can read about that in my thread "What to do with this")

ANYWAY
My feelings weree really hurt because I already felt guilty and worthless and useless, and then she made me feel so much worse and my thought process was, "She's beginning to see how worthless and useless I am now too. Great." and what not, so I went to my counselor and told her my feelings and she offered her perspective saying my T was trying to motivate me, and that there was such a thing as Good Guilt, which I didn't understand. And that she was trying to help me, and i actually can see that now! But I didn't at the moment so I left confused but thinking a bit. THEN THEN later today I am sitting journaling and I just say out, "Well you know what then? I'm just not going to give my T anything to make me feel guilty over anymore!" And i began to do my homework. Go figure!!!! She knew exactly what she was doing and no more hurt feelings, just complete utter amazed respect for my T!!!!!!

Thanks my wonderful T. I could cry with gratefulness!

I'm glad it ended well. Sometimes T plays a parental role.