my main issue is anxiety, my new gp, who has been my doctor for one year, is very nice, understanding, and helpful, but I don't feel as though its transference bcos we get on so well and have similar interests and sense of humour.
I had an appointment with him today and he started asking me about getting a bf, and asking if I want to have kids. he confirmed that he is also single. I want to ask him what u do about liking someone who isn't free. its also more difficult cos I know he's single, he's only a little older than me, and he has joked a couple of times that we should go out sometime, but I don't think he would date me cos he's a great doctor.

im wondering should I confirm that I like him? should I ask him if he would be interested (if he weren't my doctor) should I just say I like someone but he's a doctor so we cant date (surely he would work out that I mean him?)

just not sure what to do or say

[Nerak67]

I don't have any good advice but you made me think thank god my t is married so I can't even entertain the idea of something happening!

was thinkin I should add that on my last visit to my pdoc his letter said "possible personality disorder" I went to my gp saying I didn't agree and he said its ok, if it is, we can deal with it. he laughed and said he sometimes feels like he has a p disorder. he said that again today but didn't laugh. we talked abt anxiety generally and he said he finds socialising difficult and prefers to be alone and sometimes he feels lonely, but sometimes just relieved when he is alone. sometimes on my occasional visits to him, he talks like this before remembering that im just supposed to be a patient he sees occasionally.

he says its nice to see someone young, and seemingly happy, since most of his patients are old ladies.

sometimes it just feels like he needs a hug, and like maybe he recognises some of what im going through.

Originally Posted by Nerak67

I don't have any good advice but you made me think thank god my t is married so I can't even entertain the idea of something happening!

that is a problem for me, cos if he was married I would definitely know that anything he says means either a) I am getting confused and maybe have a bit of transference or b) he is pervy and I should make sure our conversations are strictly professional

[Nerak67]

Originally Posted by cally

that is a problem for me, cos if he was married I would definitely know that anything he says means either a) I am getting confused and maybe have a bit of transference or b) he is pervy and I should make sure our conversations are strictly professional

Let me clarify. My t does not in any way express interest in me inappropriately. I just meant that since I have a crush I would fantasize about it in my head if I thought he was available.

I knew what u meant. thanks for your comment