[Wren_]

I know we can't and I know it doesn't really work like it ... that lots of things go into how we react to things etc etc etc

but has anyone else ever wished (even briefly) that when a therapy session has mostly been discussing either a particular person or your response to something they did, said etc.

you could invoice the other person and they would have to pay for that session/sessions

again I know there is more to it ... (and that isn't what I'm asking about).. but I'm feeling it at the moment after a recent session

(i had been talking about abuse as one thing in connection with this so added a trigger icon since it was triggering to me and i didn't want to trigger others)

[GeorgiaGirl413]

Honestly, no, I have never felt that way. Sorry.

Originally Posted by tigergirl

I know we can't and I know it doesn't really work like it ... that lots of things go into how we react to things etc etc etc

but has anyone else ever wished (even briefly) that when a therapy session has mostly been discussing either a particular person or your response to something they did, said etc.

you could invoice the other person and they would have to pay for that session/sessions

again I know there is more to it ... (and that isn't what I'm asking about).. but I'm feeling it at the moment after a recent session

Oh yes for sure...you are not the only one. My T and I joked about sending him the bill, too! Hugs to you!!

[Nerak67]

Similarly, I've never thought I should have to pay when we spend a whole session talking about something the t did "wrong." We have to repair a rupture she caused and I have to pay?

[unaluna]

Yeah I think that's supposed to be one of our motivations? But after we've been beat up so much, I gotta say, that never worked for me. I feel like I will always pay and never get ahead. That's one of the things we talk about.

Oh yes, I can so relate to this Tigergirl. I can see how todays session triggered you
Hope you are ok now are writing about it.
I am sending my mom and my ex a huge bill at the end of my therapy

[Favorite Jeans]

I recently had a very disturbing dream in which these guys mugged me at broom point (felt a lot like a metaphor for rape.) When I woke up I realized that they had stolen 2 fives and 2 fifties from my pocket. $110 is exactly the cost of one session for me. It felt like they had robbed me of my mental health, like I deserved to be compensated for the cost of my therapy.

I have a friend who is a lawyer who specializes in civil suits against rapists. Often they end up compensating the victim for the cost of therapy. Honestly, it seems like the very least they could do.

[anilam]

Yes, I did. When my grandfather died, leaving all his possessions to my sister, I thought it would be fitting if that money was spent on my therapy bills. Mainly because I knew how much he'd hated that...
Never said anything though.

[Turtleboy]

(((((((Tiger)))))))

[tinyrabbit]

Yes. Why should my ex be out there living his life while I have to pay for therapy?

However my mother has given me money towards it and I didn't feel any better.

[murray]

My exH actually had to pay a settlement to someone and it was to cover some of her bills for therapy and meds. So it does happen in some cases. ....too bad I can't invoice him too...

[Nerak67]

I'd like t1 to pay for t2.

[ready2makenice]

Yes sometimes when I talk about my childhood abuser,I think this enough. He's NOT paying my bill,I'm not paying for this to have my whole session be about him. Send the bill to him

Once my T talked a lot about a subject I was done with and I quite frankly asked her "is this a free session or something?"

I know how you feel

[sunrise]

Originally Posted by Nerak67

Similarly, I've never thought I should have to pay when we spend a whole session talking about something the t did "wrong." We have to repair a rupture she caused and I have to pay?

That happened to me once and my T did not charge me.