 |
| FAQ/Help |
| Calendar |
| Search |
|
#1
Oct 20, 2013, 02:39 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
No empathy.
No understanding... I must be a "horrible person" to have had a t (for more than a year) who was like this.  fuzzy bear 
__________________
|
 Aloneandafraid, Anonymous327401, Anonymous43209, gayleggg, H3rmit, happy 2 b here, Jdog123, Lamplighter, Melody_Bells, pachyderm, rainboots87, rainbow8, ready2makenice, Rohag, shezbut, sittingatwatersedge, tealBumblebee, ThisWayOut, ToeJam
|
|
#2
Oct 20, 2013, 02:43 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
((((fuzzybear))))
 
__________________
"Only in the darkness can you see the stars." - Martin Luther King Jr. "Forgive others not because they deserve forgiveness but because you deserve peace." - Author Unkown |
| Fuzzybear
|
 Fuzzybear
|
|
#3
Oct 20, 2013, 02:44 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
Very glad you are not with them anymore Fuzzy!
__________________
 Pegasus Got a quick question related to mental health or a treatment? Ask it here General Q&A Forum “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by it's ability to climb a tree, it will live it's whole life believing that it is stupid.” - Albert Einstein |
| Fuzzybear
|
| Fuzzybear, pachyderm
|
|
#4
Oct 20, 2013, 02:45 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
Quote:
It must have been that T's orientation to seemingly act that way. Do you have a different T now? Or else it was an incompetent T. Unfortunately, there are some of those--too many--floating around.  A T, by definition, ought to be empathetic and understanding. I'm so sorry this was your experience.
|
| Fuzzybear
|
| Fuzzybear
|
|
#5
Oct 20, 2013, 02:55 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
Sorry to see this happened Fuzzy
 I hope you are seeing someone new now.You really are not a horrible person 
__________________
 Independent Mental Health Advocate (IMHA): UK |
| Fuzzybear
|
| Fuzzybear
|
|
#6
Oct 20, 2013, 03:05 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
You aren't a horrible person. It means that you have had a non-empathetic and non-understanding T. Whether they are that way naturally, or whether they are extremely old-school in their methods, I wouldn't know. But it wasn't you.
__________________
"The time has come, the Walrus said, to talk of many things. Of shoes, of ships, of sealing wax, of cabbages, of kings! Of why the sea is boiling hot, of whether pigs have wings..." "I have a problem with low self-esteem. Which is really ridiculous when you consider how amazing I am. |
| Fuzzybear
|
| Fuzzybear
|
|
#7
Oct 20, 2013, 03:08 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
(((((Fuzzybear)))))) Do not blame yourself for incompetence of others. I'm sorry you were subjected for that long to someone not worthy of you confidence.
__________________
Bipolar I, Depression, GAD Meds: Zoloft, Zyprexa, Ritalin "Each morning we are born again. What we do today is what matters most." -Buddha  |
| Fuzzybear
|
| Fuzzybear, happy 2 b here, pachyderm
|
|
#9
Oct 20, 2013, 04:30 PM
|
|||
|
|||
|
It is awesome that you got out of that situation! And I'm so, so, so sorry that you went through this. You are certainly not a horrible person. I had such a T for almost 2 years. I processed this awful, unhealthy relationship with my current T. One day when I felt so badly about myself for having stayed in the relationship so long and for being "stupid," "deserving" of such a bad relationship T shared that while she was in grad school she had a T who was unhealthy and not understanding, etc. This made me feel so much better - coming from someone whom I consider an excellent judge of character, was in T school, and most important is now an excellent T. So it happens to all of us...
|
| Fuzzybear, pachyderm
|
|
#10
Oct 20, 2013, 05:59 PM
|
|||
|
|||
|
I doubt that it was you. It was their personality, their choices. It says a lot more about them than about you or anything you did. Whats making you feel this way today?
|
| Fuzzybear
|
|
#11
Oct 20, 2013, 06:00 PM
|
|||
|
|||
|
Quote:
|
| Fuzzybear
|
|
#12
Oct 20, 2013, 08:28 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
They're supposed to meet us halfway, but i think some of them don't know how to figure out where that halfway point is for different people. It's not the same for everyone, and it's in a very different place for people who have pre-oedipal issues ie attachment issues as compared to "everyday" issues.
|
| Fuzzybear
|
|
#13
Oct 21, 2013, 07:17 AM
|
||||
|
||||
|
Thanks so much for sharing this. On my more "sane" days I know I didn't deserve that mistreatment/abuse
Quote:
__________________
|
| H3rmit, happy 2 b here, Jdog123
|
| H3rmit
|
|
#14
Oct 21, 2013, 07:20 AM
|
||||
|
||||
|
Thanks! This definitely makes sense!
Quote:
__________________
|
|
#15
Oct 21, 2013, 07:22 AM
|
||||
|
||||
|
Thanks for all your replies
( rough day yesterday, lots of triggers   )
__________________
|
| A Red Panda, Aloneandafraid, Anonymous327401, H3rmit, happy 2 b here
|
|
#16
Oct 21, 2013, 01:57 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
grrrrrr. I've been reading some of the posts here. I wasn't a crap client with this T
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
__________________
|
| H3rmit
|
| H3rmit
|
|
#17
Oct 21, 2013, 03:35 PM
|
|||
|
|||
Fuzzy, no one deserves to mistreatment of any kind. And I can't see you as being a crap client.
|
| Fuzzybear
|
| Fuzzybear
|
|
#18
Oct 21, 2013, 03:39 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
So sorry Fuzz. {{{hugs}}}
__________________
I have heard about your "normal" and it does not sound like fun to me. |
| Fuzzybear
|
| Fuzzybear
|
| Reply |
This is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.|
|
My Support Forums is the online community that was originally begun as the Psych Central Forums in 2001. It now runs as an independent self-help support group community for mental health, personality, and psychological issues and is overseen by a group of dedicated, caring volunteers from around the world.
Linear Mode
