[addicted2013]

Hi I am new here.

I have been seeing my therapist for 2 years now. He has broken boundaries not sexual but other ethical ones.
I needed to end therapy because it was too dangerous to me the fact that he didn't have boundaries so he suggested we become friends so he wont loose me.
He is now saying that we will never be real friends just that he will support me.
I have been thinking of suing him for the many things he did but I know he will lie and make me out to be worse than I am in order to win and save his name and make me look like a real sicko.

We have been speaking everyday since I started therapy on his advice and now because I am no longer paying him he doesnt want to talk to me everyday. I have built a dependency on him and looked up and trusted him as my therapist. It is extremely hard for me to disconnect from him as I will feel abandoned and alone.

I also feel extremely hurt that he ended the therapy and suggested that we become friends as he was scared of loosing me. He now doesn't want to be friends (or never did) and I am really confused. He blames me for ending the therapy when he did by suggesting we become friends which was my dream because I looked to him as a father figure.

I am scared that he will abandon me and no longer speak to me because I am no longer paying him.

Any feedback would be appreciated.

[Nerak67]

It would probably be best if you find a new t and work out these feelings with them.

[anilam]

Originally Posted by addicted2013

Hi I am new here.

I have been seeing my therapist for 2 years now. He has broken boundaries not sexual but other ethical ones.
I needed to end therapy because it was too dangerous to me the fact that he didn't have boundaries so he suggested we become friends so he wont loose me.
He is now saying that we will never be real friends just that he will support me.
I have been thinking of suing him for the many things he did but I know he will lie and make me out to be worse than I am in order to win and save his name and make me look like a real sicko.

We have been speaking everyday since I started therapy on his advice and now because I am no longer paying him he doesnt want to talk to me everyday. I have built a dependency on him and looked up and trusted him as my therapist. It is extremely hard for me to disconnect from him as I will feel abandoned and alone.

I also feel extremely hurt that he ended the therapy and suggested that we become friends as he was scared of loosing me. He now doesn't want to be friends (or never did) and I am really confused. He blames me for ending the therapy when he did by suggesting we become friends which was my dream because I looked to him as a father figure.

I am scared that he will abandon me and no longer speak to me because I am no longer paying him.

Any feedback would be appreciated.

I don't understand- he terminated you or you him? He's the one not letting go or you are?

Welcome on PC

[GeorgiaGirl413]

Can't figure out what's really going on here, but sounds to me like you need to break it off neatly and quickly with this guy. Find a new T who can help you process your feelings. And next time your gut tells you that a T is breaking the rules then back away right then. Most of them are truly wonderful, very ethical people, but it doesn't sound like this dude is one of them.

[Rzay4]

Wow sorry you're going through this.

I agree with Nerak67 on getting a new T and working on this with them.

Completely unprofessional