[ScrewedUpMe]

I'm not finding my sessions with T very helpful at the moment and am starting to wonder whether it's because the boundaries have become slightly blurred. Or maybe I'm imagining that

T and I have got closer over the years I have been seeing her and now I do 2 hour sessions (because I travel quite far) and it just feels like a cup of tea and a nice chat. Sometimes she will text me to tell me to drive carefully, sometimes she will have biscuits waiting for me. It's all really lovely but it's starting to feel less like therapy and almost more like a friendship. I think this is also because T has been disclosing more and more about herself lately. I now know that she has suffered alot with anxiety and depression, that she is quite sensitive, that she doesn't relax easily etc. These are all things I struggle with. I know that it's good to see T as human and not this all powerful perfect being...but seriously T, I get it, you are human! I don't need to hear anymore because I need to see you as being very strong and able to get me through all this

Anyone relate?

Are you ready to move on?

[ar2004]

I can't relate to that. I think you may need to consider finding a new T. The boundaries have been crossed by your T and it would be hard to restore a formal and professional relationship after she has made it so casual.

[Asiablue]

I think when therapists work with someone for a long time and there's an affection and trust there between the two that the boundaries do relax. Is this a deal breaker? Could this just be a lull in your therapy where things are a bit more slow and things will pick up in intensity in their own time, can you still trust and rely on her to help you when it's really needed?

[ScrewedUpMe]

Originally Posted by 1914sierra

Are you ready to move on?

Maybe...but it scares me alot too as I have become so attached

[ScrewedUpMe]

Originally Posted by Asiablue

I think when therapists work with someone for a long time and there's an affection and trust there between the two that the boundaries do relax. Is this a deal breaker? Could this just be a lull in your therapy where things are a bit more slow and things will pick up in intensity in their own time, can you still trust and rely on her to help you when it's really needed?

That's interesting...thanks for this Asia. I can absolutely trust her to be there for me when I need her. Maybe you're right and we're just not connecting as we normally do for whatever reason. I have recently changed my meds so could just be my general mood that is changing things. I think you're right that things do become relaxed to some extent and part of me loves that, but part of me wonders if it is real therapy anymore or if I am now too aware of her character and weaknesses to be able to talk freely or react in certain ways.

[tinyrabbit]

Have you talked to your T about this?

[ScrewedUpMe]

Originally Posted by tinyrabbit

Have you talked to your T about this?

Thanks Tinyrabbit. No, I haven't. I guess I am afraid to bring it up with her because I know she will then be conscious of everything she does and says and how I will interpret it. Part of my likes how it has become, I think I just know deep down that it isn't good for me.

I've worked with my T 10yrs. But it stills feels like a proffessional relationship.
Perhaps this T has reached her skill level? Only you can say if it's benefitting you or not.