[TigerTHC]

Hi there, ive been seeing a T now for 6 months, and I liked her a lot. I loved her actually. I idolized her, but lately I just feel as if I dont like her anymore. when i see her i get irritated and that whole 'she's the most wonderful being in the world' is just gone. i just dont feel like we can work when i dont like her. I also think that it might be because were getting to some sensitive issues that for some reason i now hate her, but maybe i just got to know her now?

has anyone ever experienced the same?

[Leah123]

I have found that therapy can definitely have a honeymoon period, where we feel such relief at having help, and we idolize our therapist, but inevitably, they prove they are human, not perfect, and we also start to realize that there is not a magic fix for our issues, but that the work will be painful and sometimes pretty time-consuming, and all that early "infatuation" (platonic) with the therapist and the process wears off. So, what you're going through is common, and I think the key to figuring out whether it's due to a real break in your relationship that can't be worked through with her, versus issues that need to be resolved and that can deepen your relationship with her, is to share this with her and discuss what specifically has occurred that leaves you feeling that she's not so wonderful, you may hate her, and you don't like her. It's easy to become defensive and angry and reject a therapist when we're afraid to deal with the deep issues, so hopefully you two can work out together where you are. Perhaps you can make a list first, to give yourself some perspective: what has she said, not said, done or not done that bothers you?

[tinyrabbit]

I don't think you've really stopped liking your T. I think it's connected to the fact you're getting to some sensitive issues. You're probably freaking out and creating ways to avoid talking about them - by disliking your T, you're putting a wall up. Also, maybe you're afraid of how your T might react, so you're withdrawing to protect yourself from a perceived risk of being hurt?

[TigerTHC]

Thanks Tinyrabbit, that actually makes a lot of sense. i had to share some shameful information recently.