[rainboots87]

I did with my first long-term T, though now she's my T again, and my first dietitian. I also keep in touch with my other long-term T, who I stopped seeing in summer 2012. I've sent her a few email updates and a picture or two. I emailed that T last week and just got a response today, which made me super happy. I could definitely read her humanity, encouragement, and sense of humor in the reply. She seemed genuinely happy to hear from me and about how I was doing, which really brightened my day.

Do any of you keep in touch with former Ts? Why or why not? How is it for you? I'm just curious. I also maybe nearly 8-10ish Ts that I've seen at some point in the past 6 years who I don't keep in touch with at all and don't care to.

[pbutton]

I terminated with my ex-T in July 2012. I have sent him probably 4-5 emails and he has sent great responses to all of them.

[stopdog]

I did with the first one I ever saw. I did not with the second one. I doubt I will with the ones I see now.

[Miswimmy1]

I don't. I've only had one t before the one I'm seeing now (besides therapists in hospitals), and I'm not allowed to contact her until I'm no longer in the care of someone else. That was the contract we made. I miss her though, and I wish I could keep in touch. I definitely will write to her once I am out of therapy.

No, I've never felt any wish to do that. With my first T, I terminated very abruptly for various reasons, and I used to be worried I might run into her - that was ten years ago, and I no longer fear seeing her but have no reason to seek her out. With most recent exT, I know that she has received postcards from grateful former clients, but I never really clicked with her and don't see why I would want to contact her. If anything I saw her for too long, it was a waste of money, and I strongly suspect that she was as relieved as I was when it ended after about eight months.

[feralkittymom]

I've only had one T who I saw for @ 11 years, and I haven't been in therapy since (@ 16 years ago when he retired). We've had sporadic contact over the years, but also periods with no contact. I had usually contacted him when I had significant news. He never initiated contact with me, but always responded. I stopped several years ago just because I felt closure and sort of thought it was the appropriate thing to do (he had never indicated either way).

About 1 1/2 yrs ago I suddenly found myself thinking about him rather persistently. A very uneasy feeling about him. I was concerned enough that I wrote to him (snail mail as it had been 10 years, and I had no e-mail address for him). He responded, and it turned out he was facing a terrible crisis in his family. We've been in touch since and have committed to remaining in touch.

But it is a boundaried relationship, and we both respect boundaries. It's been a process discovering where the boundaries are, just as in any relationship, as they are not the same boundaries as in therapy. Why I'm staying in touch mostly is that I care about him and his welfare. I also like him. I enjoy our exchanges, and he has said that he does, too.

[Nerak67]

Originally Posted by feralkittymom

I've only had one T who I saw for @ 11 years, and I haven't been in therapy since (@ 16 years ago when he retired). We've had sporadic contact over the years, but also periods with no contact. I had usually contacted him when I had significant news. He never initiated contact with me, but always responded. I stopped several years ago just because I felt closure and sort of thought it was the appropriate thing to do (he had never indicated either way).

About 1 1/2 yrs ago I suddenly found myself thinking about him rather persistently. A very uneasy feeling about him. I was concerned enough that I wrote to him (snail mail as it had been 10 years, and I had no e-mail address for him). He responded, and it turned out he was facing a terrible crisis in his family. We've been in touch since and have committed to remaining in touch.

But it is a boundaried relationship, and we both respect boundaries. It's been a process discovering where the boundaries are, just as in any relationship, as they are not the same boundaries as in therapy. Why I'm staying in touch mostly is that I care about him and his welfare. I also like him. I enjoy our exchanges, and he has said that he does, too.

That sounds nice

[feralkittymom]

Yeah, it is. But he's elderly, and although he's very strong and determined, I know staying in touch also means that I will be aware of his decline. But I sort of feel like I owe him that, in a way. Bittersweet, but sweet, nonetheless.

[Wren_]

I do with my ex-t and hope we continue to stay in touch

and with a previous t I did for about a year

I keep in touch with my therapist I saw in college way back when (30 years ago I guess). We exchange emails or a quick phone call a few times a year just to catch up -- all family and work talk for the most part. He's retired now, so we do this less often, but it's always nice to speak to him. He is a dear, sweet man.

No. Occasionally I'd bump into them at a clinic or something but I'd never make an effort to keep in touch with them. They know me but I have no business being in their lives out of office hours, no longer pay them, no longer talk to them.

[Rzay4]

Yes I have three Ts and still talk with all three, I don't like the idea of closure.

I see my ex-T online as we have the same hobby. I had no idea at all we did or we were even on the same site until he told me one day in therapy.

[critterlady]

No, I don't keep in touch with my former T. I contacted once a few months after he moved, to let him know that my mother had died and to thank him for his referral to my current T, but that was it.

[unlockingsanity]

Nope. Nadda!

[reesecups]

I have stayed in touch with one of my former T's. Even though I went eventually to someone else, I think the world of her. Before I moved out if state, I visited her to say goodbye. And have updated her a couple of times about what's going on with me.

[HealingTimes]

No, never felt the desire to see any of them ever again.

[with or without you]

No thanks.