Couch 65...Where all the fun is!

pbutton · Nov 11, 2013, 12:57 PM

the idea of living without hope makes me very very sad.

Nov 11, 2013, 01:14 PM

I'm sorry. I am being a downer.... I need to throw this at my T, not my friends

pbutton · Nov 11, 2013, 01:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Mastodon

I'm sorry. I am being a downer.... I need to throw this at my T, not my friends

No, it's really not a problem. I just wish you wanted better for yourself.

Nov 11, 2013, 02:40 PM

Funny hubby story -- this morning on the way to work, there was a sign at the local car wash saying, "free washes for vets." I was like, 'oh that's nice.' H is like, "huh. I wonder why they are going that. There aren't that many vets around, are there? Only like three or four." I was totally perplexed until I realized he was thinking VETERINARIANS and not VETERANS. Man, I laughed so hard.

healed84 · Nov 11, 2013, 03:11 PM

Last week when t and I were confirming we would have no appointment this week.. He did offer a 5pm appointment on Wednesday.. I declined because my D has dance class from 4:15-5pm.. And h has bible study at 6:30. Thinking now, I would like that appointment.. D can miss a dance class no problem, and h could probably still make it to bible study he would just be a little late. But this would be incredibly selfish of me to expect my daughter to miss a class and h to be late just so I can have an appt with my t, right?

Nov 11, 2013, 03:16 PM

Why would D and H be affected by your T appointment, healed? Transport/logistics problems? (Sorry if I'm missing something obvious. My brain really isn't working well.)

healed84 · Nov 11, 2013, 03:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Mastodon

Why would D and H be affected by your T appointment, healed? Transport/logistics problems? (Sorry if I'm missing something obvious. My brain really isn't working well.)

Because, I bring D to and from dance, and if I bring her to dance I would not be able to bring her to T with me..And there is no way h could pick her up. And h needs me home to watch the kids before he can leave for bible study.. And if I take a 5pm appointment it probably won't end until after 6 b/c t usually starts late. Making me home later than usual on Wednesday nights, therefore making him late for bible study.

Nov 11, 2013, 03:29 PM

Ah, I see. Quite a jigsaw puzzle you have to deal with. And it's extra annoying that yout T starts late....

I think it would be reasonable for you to prioritise your health, and go to T. Bible study, in comparison, is more of a social/recreational activity (and I mean absolutely no disrespect by this!) and being late for that would not be such a horrible thing.

Nov 11, 2013, 03:33 PM

Healed..I think it's okay to go to your appt. it's not selfish and its okay.

Nov 11, 2013, 03:49 PM

H can skip Bible study with a lot less stress and anxiety than you can skip T. Have H take D to and from dance, and just miss one Bible study. It's not as if he cannot read the Bible segments on his own and he just misses it forever.

healed84 · Nov 11, 2013, 04:11 PM

Now, the question is.. Am I brave enough to ask for that appointment time?

Nov 11, 2013, 04:23 PM

Healed. Yes. U are brave Enough.

healed84 · Nov 11, 2013, 05:28 PM

Emailed and asked for the Wednesday spot..feeling a bit too needy now. Boo! I hate these stupid emotions.

Nov 11, 2013, 06:10 PM

Healed, it's not needy it's self care.

WikidPissah · Nov 11, 2013, 06:47 PM

Day 11: I'd give anything to throw some vodka in my kale cocktail this evening. ANYTHING.

Healed, way to be proactive.

to everyone else.

trdleblue · 11:47 PM

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Nov 11, 2013, 10:11 PM

trdle , I am in a bad spot myself but if you need a fresh perspective I'll listen and try

You can also post the issue here if you like or start a thread. Lots of helpful people on here.

hang in there.

stopdog · Nov 11, 2013, 10:31 PM

I just made a quite tasty corn, potato (both sweet and regular), turnips, swiss chard and turnip green chowder.

Nov 11, 2013, 10:34 PM

I'm cleaning my disgusting house as a step in regaining control. Enjoy the chowder, I feel sick so no food for me.

stopdog · Nov 11, 2013, 10:51 PM

LC - I hope you feel better.
Have you thought about how you seem to get ill a lot around the end of traveling/being alone? My partner, when faced with certain sorts of stress almost weekly, would and still can always get physically ill - bad cold, sore throat/flu like symptoms or with stomach flu sorts of things. It is usually at the end of such stress - after it is over.
She has made some hard changes in dealing with her awful family and in work in recent years and is not sick as much.
Just a thought.

11:31 PM

Thanks SD and yes I have noticed the pattern. Stress and overall chaos, even ever so slightly causes me to become sick every time. Be it a cold, sore throat or nausea and vomiting. I looked into a DBT group in the area, it didn't come to fruition, not enough participants. I am going to approach this from a logical perspective and instill a routine for myself. I realize that most of the feelings and physical and mental stuff I bring on myself and therefore in theory I should be able to correct myself. So that is going to be my new experiment.

*I am still searching for a DBT Therapist

stopdog · Nov 11, 2013, 11:12 PM

LC - good luck with it.

Trdle - I hope things get better for you.

unaluna · Nov 11, 2013, 11:26 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

I just made a quite tasty corn, potato (both sweet and regular), turnips, swiss chard and turnip green chowder.

Sounds yummy. I like turnips, but parsnips scare me. And rutabagas.

stopdog · Nov 11, 2013, 11:28 PM

Parsnips are great - I just use them like a carrot. They would have gone well in this chowder. I usually use them in a curried carrot soup I make.
I do the same with rutabagas - I add them in sometimes along side potato.