[AllyIsHopeful]

Are going to/have you texted your therapist at midnight on New Years Eve?? To say "happy New Year"?

I'm nervous I will!! I usually either text or call my whole family and my friends too! And I feel just as close to her so not including her feels wrong.


-Hope

[Nightlight]

I don't think it's such a bad thing to want to wish someone important happy new year, but it's something I wouldn't do as a client rather than a friend or family member. I feel close to my therapist but I would not text her during her break. As much as she means to me, I am her work and I think if she wants a complete break fom it, then she deserves it. If it's something you want to stop yourself from doing, I'd suggest writing down what you wish you could say and giving that to your therapist later.

[likelife]

I've emailed my T in the past to say happy new year. Texting seems too intrusive to me.

I agree that it makes sense that you'd want to wish your T well in the new year, given the close feelings you describe.

[Hoppery]

I wrote it down on the back of a letter to my mental health nurse specialist.

[AllyIsHopeful]

I ended up texting her! =\

But she responded wishing a happy and healthy New year. I thanked her for all she's done and she responded with a smiley face.
Life is complete.

-Hope

[Raging Quiet]

I didn't - I wrote it in my T's Xmas card before the break.

[0w6c379]

I would wait until my next session to tell her Happy New Year! This is her vacation time.

I didn't. When I was sending txts around midnight I stared at T's name in my list of contacts and wished I could send a HNY txt to him, but I didn't want to remind him of work at that moment. I guess I'll say Happy new year (or actually the phrase we use when the new year is a few days old) when I see him on Tuesday.

[brillskep]

I usually don't text much at all. This year I texted more people than usual (not at midnight though, but during the last day of 2013). I did think of texting my therapist too because I feel closer to him than to many of the people I did text - but decided against it because on our last session I already gave him a gift and a card and we had a hug and a lot of holiday greetings. It felt like we already said what we needed to say and it seemed too much to text him again now.

Originally Posted by Hopelessly Hopeful

Are going to/have you texted your therapist at midnight on New Years Eve?? To say "happy New Year"?

I'm nervous I will!! I usually either text or call my whole family and my friends too! And I feel just as close to her so not including her feels wrong.


-Hope

[MoxieDoxie]

I actually have a New Years Day appointment at 11am. He decided to work because there is a snow storm coming Thursday into Friday and that will cause his clients to cancel. Private practice.....no appointments no money or a lot of needy clients like me.

[stopdog]

I did not have an urge to contact the therapists to wish them anything.

[IndestructibleGirl]

I wasn't going to, no, as we had a phone session the day before and I'll see her at the weekend, so I thought it would be more considerate to leave her alone on New Year's Eve when she's probably at a party or something. Then my T surprised me with a lovely, thoughtful message last night so of course I sent one back, and it was really nice to have the connection

[AllyIsHopeful]

Originally Posted by MoxieDoxie

I actually have a New Years Day appointment at 11am. He decided to work because there is a snow storm coming Thursday into Friday and that will cause his clients to cancel. Private practice.....no appointments no money or a lot of needy clients like me.

That's good that you still get to go in regardless of the holiday!

-Hope

[AllyIsHopeful]

Originally Posted by stopdog

I did not have an urge to contact the therapists to wish them anything.

It must depend on how close of a connection you have with them. Some people have the "love hate" relationship and some just love, some just hate.
Everyone is different.


-Hope

[AllyIsHopeful]

Originally Posted by IndestructibleGirl

I wasn't going to, no, as we had a phone session the day before and I'll see her at the weekend, so I thought it would be more considerate to leave her alone on New Year's Eve when she's probably at a party or something. Then my T surprised me with a lovely, thoughtful message last night so of course I sent one back, and it was really nice to have the connection

That's great! Very sweet that she thought to message you!

-Hope

[AllyIsHopeful]

I think there wasn't much hesitation because I called and texted everyone I'm close with so I didn't even think twice before sending her one too.
My T and I have a unique relationship that doesn't sound like many of the others I've read about on this site. At first it made me second guess everything like things aren't supposed to be this way or the lines are way too blurred with us.
Someone I know called my T Saturday to make an appointment and immediately after calling them back she called to tell me the story. She could have waited until our session on Monday because she is off on the weekends and weekends are my only time off as well.

Everyone's different I guess.

-Hope

Your T told you about someone else calling her to make an appointment? Am I understanding you correctly?

[AllyIsHopeful]

Originally Posted by 1914sierra

Your T told you about someone else calling her to make an appointment? Am I understanding you correctly?

It was a direct family member so conflict of interest. She had to tell me because the relative mentioned my name and since I'm a client she had to let me know that she did not disclose any information or agree that I was her client.

-Hope

Originally Posted by Hopelessly Hopeful

It was a direct family member so conflict of interest. She had to tell me because the relative mentioned my name and since I'm a client she had to let me know that she did not disclose any information or agree that I was her client.

-Hope

No she didn't. All she needed to do was decline to be her therapist. She did not need to include you in the discussion at all. She broke the other person's confidentiality by telling you she had this discussion.

[AllyIsHopeful]

Originally Posted by 1914sierra

No she didn't. All she needed to do was decline to be her therapist. She did not need to include you in the discussion at all. She broke the other person's confidentiality by telling you she had this discussion.

Ok before everyone gets their panties in a bunch, it was my parent that called her. And she told my parent that she was going to let me know.

-Hope

[AllyIsHopeful]

I thought this was a place to come to without judgement?
Evidently I was wrong. No one even knows my therapist and shouldn't be concerned with her practice. It's not affecting anyone here.

-Hope

That makes more sense. Sometimes the details are very important.

Originally Posted by Hopelessly Hopeful

I thought this was a place to come to without judgement?
Evidently I was wrong. No one even knows my therapist and shouldn't be concerned with her practice. It's not affecting anyone here.

-Hope

It was a legitimate concern based on the information you provided. Certainly not a judgment of you. We hear of many unprofessional breaches on this forum.

[AllyIsHopeful]

Originally Posted by 1914sierra

That makes more sense. Sometimes the details are very important.

Yeah I'm weary of being too detailed here now because of the thread another member posted about being searchable on google. If the story is too accurate or detailed it may identify people.

-Hope

[AllyIsHopeful]

Originally Posted by 1914sierra

It was a legitimate concern based on the information you provided. Certainly not a judgment of you. We hear of many unprofessional breaches on this forum.

There's actually many things I'm concerned about regarding breaches. I try to discuss it with my significant other but since he has no idea about therapy regulations and has never been himself, he is never much help.
A lot feels off about our relationship especially after reading how strict boundaries are with others here.

The thing that makes me nervous I guess is that it doesn't feel bad or wrong to me? But it feels off...
And it doesn't help that I'm so attached to her and have major transference.

-Hope