[sweepy62]

As you know or dont know, my cloosure session with t is this wednesday and the following week will be the session with new t, but my old t will be there for 15 minutes for final transition.

This is my personality in session which my t has no problem with and handles well.

1. We agree to disagree, but she manages to logically explain her viewpoints. ( I tend to like logic alot and debate and challenge)

2. I use curse words sometimes. ( not at her)

3. I tend to be sarcastic when im angry

4. I speak whats on my mind.

5im very funny
6. I change subjects

7. I tend to space out.

my current t says she appreciates that I can be myself, and she has a stern and funny personality which works out well.

This new t from meeting her with my old t for 50 minutes.

new t
very soft spoken
very smiley
very gentle
paying me too many compliments like, I see that your motivated, you never miss therapy sessions, im looking foward to working with you, you are willing to work with a third therapist.

Put yourself in my shoes as a client, tell me how YOU would feel.

[stopdog]

I don't think, from the list you gave about yourself, that you are different from other clients.
If you don't like this new one, fine. But the list you gave of her does not mean she cannot handle a client who has the list you gave for you.

You sound like probably most clients. Don't judge her before she's even done anything. You have to give this time. Don't get ahead of yourself spinning scenarios that are based on no evidence and that will just cause you additional anxiety.

[Canyon]

I think going into it with the idea that this person (new T) could very possibly be the next person that you value as a huge part of your support system. She will only become that if you allow her the chance and welcome that.

It seems that she is really trying to make you feel comfortable with her, I would think that it is a really good sign. You may find that you like her approach to therapy just as much as the old T, but for different reasons. Won't mean you like your old T any less.

Good luck.

[someone321]

I really hope sweepy that you'll be happier with your next session with a new T... I think that it was a bit awkward for both of you but maybe she was so soft and gentle (I agree - that would irritate me, I would think that she might be fake) because your old T was also there... If I was this new T, I would probably feel like I am judged and evaluated by the old T and that I have to pass the test not only for a new client but also for the second T... And maybe your T has also told the new T that she should be nice for you and gentle? Who knows... But I guess that when you are only two of you, you will know how she actually behaves and if you like her or not...

[Auntie2014]

Sweepy I just want to remind you that even though old T won't be there during most of the time during this session she will be one of your many pocket riders during the time you are alone with new T. Like others have said, just give new T a chance to get to know you and give yourself a chance to know her. You are not at the same spot you were at when you first starting to see old T. Make yourself, old T and your pocket riders proud of you by using what you learned with old T and here at PC to get through this session.

I am in your pocket. Good luck!

[Perna]

I would feel interested and challenged, something new and different to explore. I would be glad new T appeared to want to work with me, I would not have to worry about that quite so much. I would look at my list of "me" and see if there were anything there I wanted to work on (I was very sarcastic, learned it from my family growing up, and decided I wanted to change that). My T was soft spoken and I really learned a lot from that as I am not but wanted to be more-so. I had to work hard to learn to listen better and pay more attention, etc. and slow myself down, try to understand where she was coming from.

[sweepy62]

Originally Posted by Perna

I would feel interested and challenged, something new and different to explore. I would be glad new T appeared to want to work with me, I would not have to worry about that quite so much. I would look at my list of "me" and see if there were anything there I wanted to work on (I was very sarcastic, learned it from my family growing up, and decided I wanted to change that). My T was soft spoken and I really learned a lot from that as I am not but wanted to be more-so. I had to work hard to learn to listen better and pay more attention, etc. and slow myself down, try to understand where she was coming from.

thank you perna, she will probably have her own style once i am in there with her on january 30th, but she is so soft spoken and gentle it seemed so artificial, like I could just run her over just by being myself, she makes me feel like i cant be myself, and I dont want to be this gentle loving little client , not to upset her.

[stopdog]

I don't think you are going to run the therapist over by being yourself. They are usually not that fragile.

[sweepy62]

Originally Posted by stopdog

I don't think you are going to run the therapist over by being yourself. They are usually not that fragile.

thank you stopdog, I just want to be myself, and not be as gentle and smiley as she is, i really dont care about her feelings or if i hurt them, but I want to know that she can handle these things, she looks so delicate, that she seems like csa will just crush her.

[A.T.Student]

I feel like I know what you mean when you say you are afraid to be yourself. I am sometimes embarrassed to share things with my T, mostly thoughts and feelings I have about her. I think we need to trust them and ourselves more.

[maglee186]

Originally Posted by sweepy62

As you know or dont know, my cloosure session with t is this wednesday and the following week will be the session with new t, but my old t will be there for 15 minutes for final transition.

This is my personality in session which my t has no problem with and handles well.

1. We agree to disagree, but she manages to logically explain her viewpoints. ( I tend to like logic alot and debate and challenge)

2. I use curse words sometimes. ( not at her)

3. I tend to be sarcastic when im angry

4. I speak whats on my mind.

5im very funny
6. I change subjects

7. I tend to space out.

my current t says she appreciates that I can be myself, and she has a stern and funny personality which works out well.

This new t from meeting her with my old t for 50 minutes.

new t
very soft spoken
very smiley
very gentle
paying me too many compliments like, I see that your motivated, you never miss therapy sessions, im looking foward to working with you, you are willing to work with a third therapist.

Put yourself in my shoes as a client, tell me how YOU would feel.

Challenged to experience, stay positive if you can and remember how you felt when you met with your old T for the first time and then smile