[sweepy62]

Hi, guys, really need your help, as I am starting to be open to the possibility that this relationship might be starting to work with new t, although I am missing my t very much, because she knew who I was, and it was much easier just to come to the office, and she already knew me and my body language, as opposed to someone learning you, even though old t, had meetings with new t, about me, its not the same , new t still has to get to know me in session, as she has stated.

Here is the problem: about 3 months ago, my brother who is 31 , who also went through csa, with mom, he remembers bits and pieces, has been having nightmares about it, also suffers from anxiety depression and anger, ptsd , he has sucessfully finished his tour of duty in the military, with high honors and several promotions.
Is now on his way to finishing his registered nursing degree , he is doing clinicals.

He knows he had a dysfunctional childhood, he is the youngest of us, he remebers his father as alcholic, remembers fights, and my sisters were very loving but also abusive towards him physically, because he was moms favorite, he remembers alot of unwanted touch by mom as he was 4 and 5 and 6, I remember the rest.

He has been triggered lately, we both dont do well with feelings and emotions, but we trust each other 100 percent except for anything to do with "stuff" My sisters display thier affection, when they are drunk by innapropriate touching, last year he went to visit them, and they got drunk, very, my sister always says she has the hots for my brother, very innappropriate, that night, I was not there, my sis tells me they were so drunk, my brother passed out, and she took advantage of him.

He tells me he remembers her getting on top of him, and he pushing her away and trying to punch her face, saying you are my sister. On one ocassion when they were both sober, in my presense, she grabbed his privates, and he slapped her so hard, I had to grabbed him and take him to his room.

Anyway I asked him about this incident, because my sis spread around that she had sex with my brother, this triggered him highly.

the bottom line is, he asks me about his childhood, which i know alot of and moms innappropriateness, it messed him up, in every aspect, I have only told him, about how it messed up his relationships, and insecurites and ect... not csa. he keeps asking and telling me , why i didnt take him away from mom at those early ages at 4 5 6 everytime i visited him, I said i tried, but mom wouldnt let me.

my brother had a therapist, but this subject was never brought up, he is on antidepressants, I know you are going to say, that he should discuss this with his therapist, which you are correct.

my part is discussing this with the new t. my brother is coming next month, he wants to see me, we havent seen each other in 3 years, he sees me as a mom, as i practically raised him, while i was there, and i did take him under my wing, when he was 14 yrs old.
my old t, knew somewhat of this, explaining this conversation i had with my brother , would be a good thing, and she could possibly give me ideas on it, but AGAIN my current #@#$$% freaking events have to do with my $@@# past sometimes, how in the hell can I approach this subject.

[unaluna]

Maybe email your new t this post? If you had a physical illness, you wouldnt hide half your symptoms from your doctor and still expect them to cure you, would you? You ARE such a sweet pea - i would take all the help i could get from my t and try to escape my h

[sweepy62]

Originally Posted by hankster

Maybe email your new t this post? If you had a physical illness, you wouldnt hide half your symptoms from your doctor and still expect them to cure you, would you? You ARE such a sweet pea - i would take all the help i could get from my t and try to escape my h

that was cute hankster, thank you also for the sweet pea stuff and the heart, yeah my t is not private, so no emails, i will see how i can relay this situation.