[RTerroni]

With Valentine's Day tomorrow I am reminded that I am sometimes jealous of my Therapist knowing that she is probably having a good time with her significant other (in my case her Husband) and I am usually sitting at home alone, I haven't been in a relationship (even a casual one) in a number of years.

But this isn't just on Valentine's Day, in fact I would say that it happens more so around the Thanksgiving and Christmas Holidays, when I feel the same way- my Therapist is probably having a good time with their family while I am either home by myself or trying to get away from the "family" that I absolutely can't stand (and most of them do leave and go elsewhere).

I was wondering if anyone else on here ever feels the same way.

Personally Valentine's Day has never been good for me even when I was in relationships, I can remember at least 1 time when I broke up with my gf right after Valentine's Day.

[HazelGirl]

Yes, around Christmas and Thanksgiving. Not so much Valentines Day, though. And whenever she talks about something she did with her family.

[RTerroni]

Originally Posted by HazelGirl

Yes, around Christmas and Thanksgiving. Not so much Valentines Day, though. And whenever she talks about something she did with her family.

I know I felt that way with my last Group Therapist whenever she talked about trips she took with her Husband and young children.

[IndestructibleGirl]

Not jealous and not around holidays particularly but painfully aware - sometimes it hits me just how radically different her life must be to mine, full of good relationships and love and security and joy. Then I realize there are loads of people like that out there, including most of my friends, and I feel alienated and other and deeply ashamed for being so pathetic and repellent that I am how I am.

[CantExplain]

In a word, no. I never worried that my Ts loved other people better.
I have once or twice sent Madame T flowers for Mothers Day, but that's been the only date in the calendar that has had any significance at all.

[stopdog]

No, I do not.

[Freewilled]

I did over thanksgiving and especially, Christmas. I could care less about valentines day but I'm mad at my T right now sooooo prob why. Plus my transference is more parental than romantic or whatever.

Over Christmas I felt sad. Sad because of my crappy issues with family - no real friends. Sad as I imagined my T having a nice, functional time with his family and friends....Jealous. And sad that my T can't be functional with me outside of sessions. Sad that I am who I am and had the upbringing I had. How alone I was....and that T couldn't be there to shoulder the blow. And sad that I wasn't being more happy for him and was all self-pitying.

Truth is though, we don't really know what our Ts lives are like. For all we know, they could be unhappy and seeking help too.

No, never. I know nothing of his life so I can't be jealous. In any case, Valentine's day is as foreign as Thanksgiving to me, but I'm not jealous around the holidays I do celebrate.

Never. I make my own holidays special.

I've never felt jealous of my therapist. My holidays were always okay, and they are even better after therapy has ended. She helped me see the good things, and experience the wonderful people in my life.

[sweepy62]

No not really, and especially not now with this new t.

[Leah123]

My therapist is single and I'm married, so... I'm not jealous of that aspect. Both of us have complex family situations, so while I sometimes idly wish I were part of hers, I never really get jealous. Where I feel a little passing jealousy is when I see she's meeting with other clients. Then I have to remind myself what a good thing that is, for them and her, and how having multiple relationships doesn't decrease the good in each one, because my jealousy makes me reason at about the eight year old level, lol!

Okay, I do also occasionally envy her quiet lifestyle: she's semi-retired and I'm working 60 hours a week, in college full time, with a young child and husband, so... yeah, I envy the relaxed pace of her life, ha.

[Mactastic]

I get jealous of my T all the time. We were supposed to address that last time but it never came up.

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[Faking sane]

My husband and I have been together for 20 years, and we don't bother with Valentine's Day anymore. We did for the kids when they were little (and probably should do now), but as for us, it's just a day. Why get stressed and have to spend money? The best gift I ever got from my has and was a dozen roses, delivered to work, on just a random Tuesday but as for structured holidays, they seem to mean less as you get older.
I do get being jealous of tight families, though, especially now that my kids are nearly all grown up and moved away and I realize that failed just as badly as my mother to give my kids the perfect bonded upbringing... We're so disconnected, it's really sad. But I'm working on it

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