[owlpride]

Wasn't having a good day, guests arrived, I remained passive instead of joining a conversation, didn't care about any of the conversations that went on, felt invisible and excluded, asked boyfriend to take over the hosting and left.

Luckily I have a good friend who was in town and not at the party because he's uncomfortable among large crowds. I went over to his place and spent the evening curled up on his lap.

Letting me lie on his lap while stroking my hair for a few hours = BEST BIRTHDAY PRESENT EVER.

Not sure whether to tell T. He's going to be concerned that I'm getting depressed and might put our other work on ice. He's done that in the past, not letting me talk about anything "deep" when he was concerned about my mood because he didn't want therapy to railroad my life. Thing is, I really really reallly want to continue the conversation from last week even if it takes a temporary toll on my mood. I'll just keep ruminating about the topic until I get that conversation out of my system...

[CantExplain]

Obviously it's important. I would mention it.

[PeeJay]

My T said it is helpful to know how the session content affects my life outside of therapy.

It also might be worth exploring your relationship with your boyfriend and good friend. Hair stroking is intimate, and emotionally supportive, and sweet.

I don't have a judgment on it either way, but this relationship dynamic, where you draw support, and who is most supportive of you, all seem worthy of exploration in therapy!

Probably a good idea to tell ypur t about it.

[RTerroni]

I agree with everyone that you should tell your Therapist about it.

[Victoria'smom]

I would tell t. Your relationships can be damaged with this type of depression.