[Bentay]

Well I'm confused........my final session with my T was, maybe 5 weeks ago, I found the ending quite difficult so I wrote him a letter & requested the ending be staggered - he wrote back asking me to come see him for a session in March.

I was over the moon! but now I'm confused & apprehensive as I'm worried that after seeing him I will feel worse & I'm not sure what I'm feeling about the ending anymore.

I feel my therapy ended prematurely but I also know he won't offer me any more sessions (UK NHS & all that) so is there any point in seeing him to explain I still need help when I know he can't give it. Have I come to terms with the end after 5 weeks - maybe, maybe not, I don't know what's the point ? Do I cancel or go see him & risk feeling worse ? If I write & cancel that really will be the end.....that's tough duno what to do.....any idea's please.

[unlockingsanity]

Can you email your T or call him? Maybe he can help you make the decision.

[Mactastic]

Maybe he can refer you to someone else? Is that a possibility? I would go, at least try to tie up loose ends.

[rainbow8]

Did he tell you for sure that the session in March has to be the final one? Since he was willing to schedule another appointment, maybe he can give you a few more. I would try to be clear on what you are needing, though. Do you just need more time to say goodbye to your T, or do you need more therapy with someone else? I think you should see him, anyway. Just my opinion.

[HazelGirl]

You'll regret it if you don't go.

[Bentay]

Originally Posted by unlockingsanity

Can you email your T or call him? Maybe he can help you make the decision.

Cant email or call him due to boundaries

[Bentay]

Thank you everyone. I'm pretty sure the session in March is just a one off. The thing is, although therapy really helped me I know I'm still not quite there yet (i have SA).
Anyways lets see, I just hope he isn't angry with me for wasting his time

[Nightlight]

If you really do have to finish, it's going to be pretty sad and difficult regardless of the decision you make about the possible final session. For me it would come down to the level of attachment I had with the therapist. If I felt very attached, then I would definitely choose to say goodbye as best I could, even though it almost certainly would resurface a lot of the pain I'd already experienced in the former "final" session.

[stebbyneslo]

I know I'm contradicting what everyone else is saying, but I don't think you should bother. Its only going to bring more pain. Let it go and save the money. Isn't kind of a strange to pay for an appointment for the purpose of saying goodbye?

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

[Bentay]

Nightlight I understand what your saying & I'm really worried about going as I fear my feelings will resurface & I'll be back to square one. I know it sounds stupid but I didn't realise how important my 'final' session was & I was focused on other stuff rather then saying a proper goodbye. It only dawned on me later that I would NEVER see my T again.

Stebbyneslo that's what my head is saying - dont bother because of the pain (btw I don't have to pay as its covered by the NHS). If I think about completely without any emotions, I feel I should write to my T & not go but I think I will prob end up going as I miss my T (not a good reason I know