How does one know what the information is supposed to mean?

stopdog · Feb 28, 2014, 10:36 PM

I find why works in most of my conversations. I have not found it a problem as a rule when interacting with real people.

growlycat · Feb 28, 2014, 10:45 PM

I believe that the "x is because of why" type statements (aka thank you dr obvious statements) are meant to "normalize" your experience. For some people that could be reassuring, for others it can seem like a dead end. I have been on both sides of that equation. Sometimes it helps to know one of my quirks is shared by someone or two in humanity---other times I feel like "that observation plus 4 bucks will buy me a starbucks grande".

msxyz · Feb 28, 2014, 10:48 PM

Well I will believe my therapist anything over my mother, he also knows me better than anyone and especially her.

I ask my therapist when I don't know what something is supposed to mean, I am rather straightforward that way. This said, he doesn't often tell me that x is because of y, and now that I think about I am glad he doesn't.

worthit · Mar 01, 2014, 11:24 AM

I think you have a black and white issue. If it's not exactly so,it's useless. Maybe there's a bit of arrogance as well. This is part of our illness not any judgement on you,just maybe something to work on. What good is going to a T if you only want to talk and tell them to just be quiet. Must be frustrating for both.

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stopdog · 11:44 AM

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Originally Posted by worthit

I think you have a black and white issue. If it's not exactly so,it's useless. Maybe there's a bit of arrogance as well. This is part of our illness not any judgement on you,just maybe something to work on. What good is going to a T if you only want to talk and tell them to just be quiet. Must be frustrating for both.

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I don't have a diagnosis from anyone. I do not have an illness. The second one I see has mentioned ptsd but that is it. I do find it useful when she does not talk. I am not frustrated. I have asked her if it is difficult for her not to talk and she said it was not.
This was not a question about what others think about how I do therapy, but rather if others find it useful.

Freewilled · Mar 01, 2014, 01:53 PM

Sometimes the x because of y statements make me feel worse. It's somewhat irritating because I'm desperately trying to feel better and want to know how, not why. I already know why. Doesn't mean I know how to make it stop....

For example, T might say it seems like your needs weren't met from those closest to you and now it affects you being ok with your needs. ............ Yeah, I buy that. Ok. ........ So but what do I do? Then here is where the T seems to think I am being arrogant or unwilling or resistant or want a magic wand or ...and on and on. So I don't know, really. Perhaps that correlation is supposed to evoke an emotional response from me? But for some reason it's not working very well.

someone321 · Mar 01, 2014, 02:07 PM

I hate when Ts say that x is because of y and think that it should be a big revelation for me, something totally new... Till now, I haven't heard anything new and quite often I interupt my T and say "yes, I know" or "yes I'm aware of it" or "yes, I know what you mean" (I guess it might be annoying for Ts) because I really know and understand but it doesn't necessarily mean that I "feel" it... I mean that I know that x is because of y but unfortunately this knowledge not always helps me... My current T stopped saying such statements, usually she asks me what I think about x, what might be the reason, so I tell her, she agrees and we move on...

Freewilled · Mar 01, 2014, 02:13 PM

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Originally Posted by someone321

I hate when Ts say that x is because of y and think that it should be a big revelation for me, something totally new... Till now, I haven't heard anything new and quite often I interupt my T and say "yes, I know" or "yes I'm aware of it" or "yes, I know what you mean" (I guess it might be annoying for Ts) because I really know and understand but it doesn't necessarily mean that I "feel" it... I mean that I know that x is because of y but unfortunately this knowledge not always helps me... My current T stopped saying such statements, usually she asks me what I think about x, what might be the reason, so I tell her, she agrees and we move on...

I am not one to come out and say something like "yes, I know" - but I will just say "yes - that makes sense..." ......silence....... The end result is the same as if I had said something like "duhhhh" which is not what I mean anyways. I respect my T and appreciate his insights. I'm just lost at the silence point. Wtf am I supposed to say? I know. I can't help that I know. I don't even disclose that I know but I guess he reads my implicit feedback or something

nothing I can do about that.....I have a feeling it's supposed to provide a possibility of emotional response. And that I'm numbed out to it still. Not my fault though. I mean, how do you force yourself to feel???

Victoria'smom · Mar 01, 2014, 04:40 PM

My T doesn't do that but my husband t does but its usually"when x happens you do y..... So how's that working out for you?"

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