[moodycow]

ok ,so as i have said been seeing t for first time ever and five months in trusted him enough to open up an be honest. good i hear you say !! no he knew that my absolute worse fear was if he acted on this ,but did anyway iget why but feel soooo angry and let down ,

[nottrustin]

I am so sorry you are going through this..

What did he act on??

[AmysJourney]

I would be interested too.. what did he do? Did he betray your confidentiality? That would be incredibly unethical and of course against the law.

The only things I can imagine is that you're a minor and you told him something and he told your parents or guardian or someone. Or that he had cause to think you were harming yourself or are a harm to others that he had an obligation to do something.
Whatever it is I am sorry to hear that you feel so bad.

Amelia

[Outcast_of_RGaol]

Originally Posted by moodycow

ok ,so as i have said been seeing t for first time ever and five months in trusted him enough to open up an be honest. good i hear you say !! no he knew that my absolute worse fear was if he acted on this ,but did anyway iget why but feel soooo angry and let down ,

Well if he acted on romantic feelings towards him... you were betrayed. And I'd be devastated too.
So sorry to hear about this.

[ThisWayOut]

Sorry to hear things did not go well, but it seems like you had an awareness that he may need to act (you said you get why). I know it doesn't change the way things feel. Maybe it can be something that helps build trust in the long run, like knowing he will act appropriately even if it goes against what you want. (I'm thinking hospitalization if you are an immediate risk to yourself, or something along the lines of getting you out of harm's way if you are a minor)...
can you have a conversation with him about feeling betrayed? It may lead to better understanding on both sides in the future if you still end up seeing him after this. I was once sent to the hospital after a misunderstanding. After being sent home from the er and seeing the provider again, we talked about what I was trying to say and what she heard me say. We talked for a long time and got to a better place of trust... it really sucked at the time, but in the end it better. I found out she actually cared about what happened to me instead of just being a paycheck.
Anyway. I'm sorry you feel so betrayed. (Hugs) it really sucks when that happens and I don't mean to minimize the hurt by saying all that. If it helps, you can talk about it here.

[moodycow]

Thank you mdnt rain, no i am not a minor, I did not have an awareness at the time it was a complete shock ,it is with hindsight i can see that he was just doing his job,he did not break confidentiality lightly i guess he felt he had no choice .it just did not feel like it to me at the time . guess my issue is that it has been so hard to be open and honest and i did so after telling him that my biggest fear was him involving others in my care , this is exactly what he has done.

[AmysJourney]

Originally Posted by moodycow

Thank you mdnt rain, no i am not a minor, I did not have an awareness at the time it was a complete shock ,it is with hindsight i can see that he was just doing his job,he did not break confidentiality lightly i guess he felt he had no choice .it just did not feel like it to me at the time . guess my issue is that it has been so hard to be open and honest and i did so after telling him that my biggest fear was him involving others in my care , this is exactly what he has done.

May I ask, how did that happen? Did he think you were at the risk of suicide or of harming others? How can he involve others? I don't understand?

[moodycow]

i think i am a danger to myself and he felt same. guess things work differently in usa .

[HazelGirl]

Yes, in the USA, if you tell him that and then you do kill yourself, your family can sue him and he could lose his career. So of course he is going to make sure you are okay, and take whatever measures are necessary to keep you alive.