Is your T a hugger?

very very much so and we wouldnt want it any other way ♥

She is not a hugger but she hugs me every session anyway. All my therapists have.

I don't think she is, I have never asked for a hug but when I am upset in therapy I wish that she would give me a hug.

I would love a hug but she has never offered or even touched me like a pat on the back or anything and I am too frightened of rejection to ask her. I have had some extremely upsetting sessions recently and really would have welcomed a supportive gesture but nothing. I wish she would - I wonder often if she hugs other clients. Should I ask?

Yes, he is. But he never, ever imposes this. He only started hugging me when I said I wanted it and he always does it in the most respectful way.

It all depends on if you can handle rejection or not when I tried to hug a prior Therapist of mine at our final session she flat out rejected it telling me that she never does hugs and I felt very upset about it.

With my current Therapist I asked her for a hug when I was having a very hard day and she also told me that she didn't do hugs (except at final sessions) and while I was still a little upset I think that I was more able to deal with it in that circumstance.

That sounds so hard to me. I don't think I could handle possible rejection at the moment. Well done you for asking and for dealing with it. I would be in pieces I think.

Id be afraid of her saying no, id feel like probably crying on her.

I know that's the worst, but with my current Therapist she told me why she doesn't normally hug and while I didn't necessarily agree with it I came to accept it.

No. glad t and pdoc aren't. I'm averse to touching by those out of hug boundary zone. it would seem awkward, to be hugged in such professional relationships.

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We've never hugged in the 4.5 years I've been seeing him. He has kissed me once. I'm ok with that.

T is very huggy. Which is nice because so am i.

He's not with me, which I am A-OK with at this point. I don't think I've ever hugged a therapist. We shake hands, and I like that; it's grounding somehow, and reaffirms that we have a good relationship.

I can see him going either way with other clients, though.

I would guess no but I have never asked because I'm too nervous and afraid of rejection. I shook her hand two or three times at the beginning but I stopped doing that early on. Maybe some day I'll ask her for a hug....

My T is a hugger. Pretty much the touchy-feely type. She has hugged me a couple of times a long time ago; spontaneous and for a good reason. But, I'm more the reserved sort physically. We have never discussed it - but I've had the sense that she holds back because she is aware of our having these different 'natures' and doesn't want to risk doing something that might be problematic for me. It's just the feeling I get sometimes... that she's stopping herself. Plus, I think she may be thinking that it wouldn't be a bad thing for me to have to ask for it if I wanted it. A time or two I've thought about it....

After my Dad was (suddenly) ill she gave me a hug when I requested. Normally we wouldn't hug, nor do I get that vibe from her, so it was special to me that she made an "exception." It's probably best that we don't hug on a regular basis given my history of attaching to females in positions of power

Yes, my T is a hugger, and is the first "hugger T" I've ever had. At first the hugs were awkward, but now they aren't, so we hug at the end of each session. Hugging T has made me less self-conscious about hugging in real life, and that's a very good thing for me!

Oh , I can understand that.

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Kissed you? Can I ask in what context?

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I wish T was a hugger, but I think it would just be awkward hugs which would make me feel even more embarrassed after therapy than I already do