[Mustkeepjob32]

Hello!

Functionally, I have a horrible time in that I lose jobs as I get so anxious about going to work that I end up being absent enough that they fire me. I work in the stressful healthcare arena.
As far as doing the ABCs of REBT, this is what I've come up with:

A: Worried that I will fail, miss work, get fired.
B: I 'must' do do well at my job.
C: Extreme Anxiety
D: I prefer to do well at my job but I don't have to.

Does that seem right? Is there another irrational belief that I should put down? I know I need to change my 'musts' to 'prefer' but want to make sure I'm doing it right. Of course I kinda NEED to do well at my job or they will fire me. I just don't know if I'm doing it correctly.

[stopdog]

I don't understand what you are talking about, but good luck with it.

[HazelGirl]

Why do you feel like you must do well? Is it because you believe you are a failure if you don't? Or is it because you don't believe you can do well? I think that there's more to this problem than just thinking you have to do well.

[boredporcupine]

Maybe your must is actually I "must" not lost my job? It sounds like your need to do well at your job is mainly so that you won't lose it? Or are you more worried about what people will think of you?

[Mustkeepjob32]

Thanks all for your replies!

Maybe the "must" is to not lose the job, but I've lost so many, I really want to be successful at my work so I can make money like normal people and enjoy life.

[HazelGirl]

So maybe it's "I must do well at my job so I can be happy"?