Any regrets about your therapy?

I am thinking about my own journey a lot lately because I have said goodbye to my ex t and I am a but nostalgic.
I miss her so much, it's like a part of me was broken off when I walked out her door and I regret that I trusted her so much, I regret that I gave so much of my power to her and stayed helpless for so long. I regret that I let myself get attached and needed her more than I should but most of all I regret leaving her- I know none of this makes sense but lately therapy doesn't make sense.

What do you regret most about your journey through therapy?
Maybe you have no regrets but only positive stories and if that's the case can you share something positive, only if you want to of course

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I totally regret everything about my seven years of therapy. LOL. I regret calling him and making that first appointment and everything that happened from then on. I wish I could erase all of it from my mind. It was stupid, idiotic and futile.

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Did you not feel any benefits from your experience? I am so sorry because it sounds like you had a very long and painful experience x

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I don't really think there were many, if any, benefits. Just a lot of pain. I do think I have finally gotten it through my thick skull that it is not safe to trust anyone ever. So that is one benefit because hopefully it will save me from so much pain in the future.

What do I regret?

One thing I regret is not starting sooner. I started therapy for the first time in 2009. And now, in 2014, I am finally starting to deal with the big stuff, the hard stuff. My life has been chaos, and if I had sought help before it got so crazy, maybe I would be further than I am now.

In the midst of that, I regret trusting Ts so easily. My first couple of Ts I put too much trust in too early and got hurt. My current T it's taken a year of seeing her once a week and I am finally working on the big stuff.

There are times I do regret going at all -- only because there are times I wish I could go back into denial and live in my eating disorder and be thin again.

I regret spending a year with a T who gave me advice that directly conflicted with my beliefs.

I've had some crappy experiences in therapy and while i wouldn't choose to go thru that again, i don't regret it and i wouldn't change it because it has taught me so much about myself and others. And it made way for me to find the therapist i'm with just now who is right for me in this moment. Whether that will always be the case i don't know, but even if it doesn't work out there either, i can take what i've learnt and move on.

Not a one.

Honestly? Not a one.

I would love to have no regrets but with all of my regrets came sorrow but also a strength and learning, so it is worth it

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Yes. Honestly — not a one. It was only 18 months. It got me where I never thought I wanted/would be.

If I go back to therapy that I had when I was a teen or a college student it would be endless.

So again, not a one.

Nothing so far. It's been terribly scary and often confusing but I feel like I'm making headway and going at a pace that's right for me (slowly)

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Maybe you feel like this now puzzle because you have never met anyone who has shown you they were safe, maybe you just some time to meet a safe person because they do exist


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No, you misunderstood. I was saying that honestly I don't have one regret. I was replying to the original question, not your post specifically.

That I didn't find my current T sooner.

But, as she would say....it is what it is....and I did find her, so that is what is important.

I agree with her

Yes, I regret I trusted my T and other people in my life. I wish I had known sooner that he was just toying with me. I was being used for what?? Maybe I was a good joke for his social circles. I know I was laughed at by others. It's a cruel, cruel, world and I was a fool. Well I won't be trusting anyone anymore.

Sorry, Chris.

I'm glad you have no regrets.

Only regret I have is not going to therapy years a go.

I love success stories

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I regret not researching therapy more before I started. I wish I would have known more about the importance of seeing someone with a good amount of experience.

That said, I didn't know a lot about myself when I started and I don't think I could have identified what I needed, because I know that what I thought I needed, was the opposite at the time.

I'm just glad I'm on the right track now. That might not have happened without the poor experience, so I don't know if I can legitimately regret it since it has gotten me to where I am now.

I regret the thousand dollars I paid to second one I saw. Happily I did not waste more money seeing her than just a couple of months worth.

With first t i regret ever trusting her or telling her anything- she used it against me. I regret allowing myself to give up so much control to her, letting her tell me what to do, out of fear she would abandon me (she did anyway!!)

With this t that i just love, i regret not finding her sooner (she wishes i had also!) i didnt find her until two years after first t dumped me. Through some divine connections. and i just regret that i am not wealthy enough to go visit her all the time, since she currently has to reside in another country due to a family emergency, and i wish i could see her every day!i wish i had a ton of money to use on airline tickets

I regret:
1. Not being able to express myself with my first therapist (T1) in high school.
2. Not doing the assessment T1 suggested.
3. Cancelling and never saying goodbye to T1. This still haunts me.
4. Not going back to therapy for over 15 years, passing up multiple opportunities to do it for free.
5. T2 doesn't have any experience with my diagnosis, but she is learning.