Hard on self

Hi all...
So for my therapy goals some are specifically related to my physical health. One is related to my eating habits...the other to weight loss.

My only problem is I get really down on myself if I haven't followed my plan exactly. Any ideas to offset the negativity? Maybe some kind of reward system-just to help incentivize my goal? In all honesty I'm doing pretty good with these goals except one particular aspect of the eating habit change. The weight loss goal, so far, seems to be on track which is a huge relief. I guess perfection so quickly in regards to a drastic eating habits change shouldn't be expected!

Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

All the best things in life take a great deal of time. Patience is your friend.

Can you give yourself permission to "cheat" every once in a while. It might help with the guilt, and with your ability and desire to follow your plan.

HazelGirl-I tried a cheat day but eventually one day turns into everyday. Thanks though.

Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

On the days you feel extra down on yourself, can you try making a list of 5 things that you accomplished at the end of each day? Usually before bed is the most effective time to do this for me.

On this list you could include things from your day that you are proud of yourself for, tasks you accomplished, areas where you perhaps overachieved a goal, something you are getting better at, etc. Just generally very positive things.

It won't necessarily change the fact that you did not 100% stick to your plan, but it will remind you that you are trying and prevent you from beating yourself up over it.

Thanks Hopelessly Hopeful! I'm going to give that a try. That sound like something that might help counteract the negativity I find myself in when I don't follow my diet plan.

Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

Well, in fact, being able to do stg not 100% perfectly IS healthy.
I can do white (i.e. perfect), I can do black but I need my T to help me with the middle ground. So I'd say good for you to be able to compromise yet still achieve your goals.

Anilam I need to work on not feeling like I need to follow my plan 109% perfectly but it's incredibly difficult for me. I'm hoping if I can counteract some or even most of the negativity that occurs when I don't do something 100% perfectly-that it might help in finding peace with progress.

Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

Instead of having a "cheat day" which interrupts your pattern, why not have a cheat every day? That way you can be more flexible.

Tomorrow is another day. You get to start again and try again.

Please don't beat yourself up for what you did yesterday. It is over.

Be good to you. Celebrate the small victories.

Thanks for that piece of advice. It really resonated with me! I need to post that on my fridge. So, I can remember to give myself small victories to celebrate. It doesn't have to all be conquered at once but if I take it in small steps...I will consistently have something to celebrate. And something to celebrate is always FUN.

Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk