[sweepy62]

My old t referrered me to this new t, they got along well they knew each other. So this new t knows that old t and I had a great connection , besides my old t spoke to her about me.

New t , says its a pleasure working with me, and would like to keep fostering our relationship, she knows I miss my t once in a while, but I have told her, I enjoy working with her as well.

She then told me she would want me incorporate some of those things from my past relationship onto ours, to make me feel more comfortable with her.

We are going to start trauma work next week, I'm kinda wondering if she is just trying to be sweet, so I will open up?

I do like her though.

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[AllyIsHopeful]

What are some of the things she's referring to? I am glad you are liking her so far.

[CantExplain]

This sounds like "forced transference", to coin a phrase. Which doesn't seem like such a good idea.

[sweepy62]

Originally Posted by CantExplain

This sounds like "forced transference", to coin a phrase. Which doesn't seem like such a good idea.

On whos part? I kinda thought it was a bit wierd, yet a bit nice I guess, she wants me to be as comfortable as I was with my past t, they were colleagues, friends at work. But I only been working with her just 2 and a half months. I do like her, I just dont know how to incorporate those things into our relationship.

[Leah123]

I incorporated a deck of Angel Cards that my first counselor used with me into therapy: I ordered a set for my current therapist and once in a while we draw one together. I told her, too, about the "what's the worst thing that could happen" question she used to ask, which I felt was so helpful, so my current one could ask me sometimes too. There are probably other instances if I think about them.

I find it helpful to connect the two a little bit, comforting, creating shared traditions among my favorite two therapists.

[CantExplain]

Transference is when you try to have the "same" relationship with a different person. It happens all the time, and is a major ingredient in psychotherapeutic technique.

But when T explicitly asks for that, it feels forced.

[sweepy62]

That's cool, I have nothing material except like I told my t , my old t and I were comfortable with each other we use to high five alot, or use lol or omg Stuff like that , or curse words ocassionally.

If she had to pee, she would say hey sweepy gotta go pee b right back lol . I could go into session and say hey t I'm f pissed today.

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[RTerroni]

That might be a good thing though I had such a good relationship with the Therapist who I saw for 4 years that I have tried to incorporate some of that with my current Therapist.

[Leah123]

Originally Posted by CantExplain

Transference is when you try to have the "same" relationship with a different person. It happens all the time, and is a major ingredient in psychotherapeutic technique.

But when T explicitly asks for that, it feels forced.

Well.... it can feel forced or it can feel welcome or something else, I think it depends on the situation and individuals. I think it's lovely, personally, for a T to want to emulate a prior T a little bit if it's to help the client feel more comforted in the relationship. A nurturing, generous offer from my perspective, but I do believe it all depends on how the recipient feels about it within context.

[sweepy62]

Originally Posted by Leah123

Well.... it can feel forced or it can feel welcome or something else, I think it depends on the situation and individuals. I think it's lovely, personally, for a T to want to emulate a prior T a little bit if it's to help the client feel more comforted in the relationship. A nurturing, generous offer from my perspective, but I do believe it all depends on how the recipient feels about it within context.

I think it was cute in a way, I just never expected that, kind of weird, I guess most therapists, want to build thier own without having the past t in a room, I just feel funny about it, there are times when I almost called her by my old t name, and I caught myself, that would have been so embarassing lol. I will give it a try this week. I wont try the high five stuff yet, but I will try to be more of myself around her I suppose.