Attachment style test

Depletion · Apr 26, 2014, 05:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Mastodon

Did I imply that I think that's how people in general think of therapy? If so, I'm sorry. I am not having a very coherent day today, apparently... I don't presume to know what people in general think of therapy. I have read enough of what people on these boards think (even though I don't think this is a particularly representative population, all the opinions of people here are equally valid) to know that many people definitely don't think that therapy is a way to get out of having an external support system. I know that many people here have been able to build stronger relationships with friends and family because they have been in therapy, and it seems to be a good thing for them.

I didn't really mean that as a personal attach, it was just a philosophical point. And I just meant to refer to what I think the perceived social belief about therapy is. I think that there is a social belief that emotions are unacceptable, and that therapy is the place where people ought to go get them "fixed." I don't know that anyone here, in particular, really "believes" this, I just think that its an idea that is suggested by the way people interact with emotions and tend to talk about therapy (at least in my experience they do). I was just trying to say that I don't think its good for people's emotional worlds to be confined to therapy rooms. I think we have to figure out how to talk to each other about emotions, like people here do; because if we don't then a lot of the trauma that caused people to need therapy in the first place won't get resolved.

That being said, I do understand that emotions are not easy, and that finding people who are safe to confide in is a very big challenge. Therapy, I'm quite sure, is an excellent place to begin working through that challenge, an ought to be a guaranteed safe place.

Ok, I'm getting off my soap box now, and I won't be responding again, because I want to give people a chance to post about the OP, and I don't want to get the thread closed. Sorry for any misunderstanding.

AbsurdBlackBear · Apr 26, 2014, 06:56 PM

According to your questionnaire responses, your attachment-related anxiety score is 5.72, on a scale ranging from 1 (low anxiety) to 7 (high anxiety). Your attachment-related avoidance score is 1.67, on a scale ranging from 1 (low avoidance) to 7 (high avoidance).

Combining your anxiety and avoidance scores, you fall into the preoccupied region of the space. Previous research on attachment styles indicates that preoccupied people tend to have highly conflictual relationships. Although they are comfortable expressing their emotions, preoccupied individuals often experience a lot of negative emotions, which can often interfere with their relationships.

Apr 26, 2014, 07:39 PM

SD and I can't be the only dismissives. Can we?

lightcatcher · Apr 26, 2014, 08:36 PM

Fearful-avoidant. Im not surprised by this at all haha.

Apr 26, 2014, 10:14 PM

I took this test again, but in context with my therapist this time, and scored lower in the anxiety component. Not all questions were applicable.

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According to attachment theory and research, there are two fundamental ways in which people differ from one another in the way they think about relationships. First, some people are more anxious than others. People who are high in attachment-related anxiety tend to worry about whether their partners really love them and often fear rejection. People low on this dimension are much less worried about such matters.

Second, some people are more avoidant than others. People who are high in attachment-related avoidance are less comfortable depending on others and opening up to others.

According to your questionnaire responses, your attachment-related anxiety score is 6.00, on a scale ranging from 1 (low anxiety) to 7 (high anxiety). Your attachment-related avoidance score is 2.89, on a scale ranging from 1 (low avoidance) to 7 (high avoidance).

We have plotted your two scores in the two-dimensional space defined by attachment-related anxiety and avoidance. Your approximate position in this space is denoted by the blue dot. (Note: If you left any of the questions unanswered, then these scores may be inaccurate.)

As you can see in this graph, the two dimensions of anxiety and avoidance can be combined to create interesting combinations of attachment styles. For example people who are low in both attachment-related anxiety and avoidance are generally considered secure because they don't typically worry about whether their partners are going to reject them and they are comfortable being emotionally close to others.

Combining your anxiety and avoidance scores, you fall into the preoccupied region of the space. Previous research on attachment styles indicates that preoccupied people tend to have highly conflictual relationships. Although they are comfortable expressing their emotions, preoccupied individuals often experience a lot of negative emotions, which can often interfere with their relationships.

Apr 26, 2014, 10:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Depletion

Ok, I'm getting off my soap box now, and I won't be responding again, because I want to give people a chance to post about the OP, and I don't want to get the thread closed. Sorry for any misunderstanding.

You're fine, Depletion!!

Thanks for contributing to the thread I started.

unaluna · Apr 26, 2014, 10:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Bipolarartist

SD and I can't be the only dismissives. Can we?

I dont remember seeing you guys around the campfire holding hands and singing Kumbaya

Apr 26, 2014, 10:40 PM

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Originally Posted by My kids are cool

Wow, that was interesting. I took that test before and this time I was MUCH closer to the middle.

Hi there,

Where were you at last time you took it??

HazelGirl · Apr 27, 2014, 02:06 AM

Mine have improved since I last took it. I used to be WAY avoidant and mildly fearful. But once I got close to someone, I would turn into a crazy preoccupied mess. So I was characterized as "fearful", a combination of both. But although I am still "fearful", I am much closer to the middle than I used to be.

lrt1978 · Apr 27, 2014, 11:11 AM

I got fearful avoidant

Apr 27, 2014, 11:23 AM

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Originally Posted by skies

Hi there,

Where were you at last time you took it??

I was pretty far over on the avoidant part of the spectrum and somewhat dismissive (I think). Now I am slightly on the anxious side and dramatically closer to the middle, but still somewhat avoidant.

liveinspired · Jun 16, 2014, 08:03 PM

Fearful avoidant. Matches pretty well in terms of definition.

GenCat · Jun 16, 2014, 08:29 PM

How does this work if you've never been in a romantic relationship?

CameraObscura · Jun 16, 2014, 09:11 PM

"According to your questionnaire responses, your attachment-related anxiety score is 3.83, on a scale ranging from 1 (low anxiety) to 7 (high anxiety). Your attachment-related avoidance score is 3.94, on a scale ranging from 1 (low avoidance) to 7 (high avoidance).

Combining your anxiety and avoidance scores, you fall into the secure region of the space. Previous research on attachment styles indicates that secure people tend to have relatively enduring and satisfying relationships. They are comfortable expressing their emotions, and tend not to suffer from depression and other psychological disorders."

I think this quiz has some flaws.

pbutton · Jun 16, 2014, 10:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Bipolarartist

SD and I can't be the only dismissives. Can we?

I'm also dismissive.

Petra5ed · Jun 16, 2014, 10:11 PM

I scored fearful-avoidant. Thanks mom!

JustShakey · Jun 17, 2014, 05:10 AM

Fearful-avoidant. I already knew that. Like I told T at my last session, I'm scared of everything

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Jun 17, 2014, 05:34 AM

Attachment-related anxiety score is 5.28
Attachment-related avoidance score is 4.83

Fearful- Avoidant.

Gotta say I saw that coming. Relationships terrify me. lol

Aloneandafraid · Jun 17, 2014, 07:24 AM

Fearful - Avoidant.

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