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Apr 27, 2014, 05:38 PM
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How do you work through feelings of love and Attachment when being involuntarily terminated.
I simply don't see how one can't do this with a long term therapeutic relationship. It's almost disrespectful to think I can dismiss my Pain as something that can be wished away.. Yet I Feel like this is what is expected of me .
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#2
Apr 27, 2014, 06:46 PM
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If I remember correctly, your T isn't allowing you to talk about your feelings regarding his retirement, right? I really think that you need to find a T who will validate your feelings and allow you to be honest with them.
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Apr 27, 2014, 06:53 PM
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Are you still staying in touch with this therapist after though?
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Apr 27, 2014, 07:29 PM
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He doesn't address my feelings. I voice them and he says what do you want me to say.
He doesn't seem to know how to deal with me. Yes We have discussed contact after retirement. I'm supposed to transition to a new T at some point. Think he is retiring in September but I worry It's going to happen sooner as he has already purchased a ticket to India.
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Apr 27, 2014, 07:34 PM
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I am sorry. He is handling this very badly. "What do you want me to say?" is a TERRIBLE way to handle your emotions. Can you get a new T sooner than waiting for his referrals? It sounds like that may be what you need ASAP, before he leaves.
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HazelGirl PTSD, Depression, ADHD, Anxiety Propranolol 10mg as needed for anxiety, Wellbutrin XL 150mg |
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#6
Apr 27, 2014, 08:23 PM
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It's a grieving process. The grief doesn't "go away", you just get used to it.
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Apr 27, 2014, 10:11 PM
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I think if you can come up with an answer to his unhelpful question, that will be helpful.
What could he say to help you- would it be to honor your feelings and share your sadness? Would it be to accept that you felt angry and help you process it? Would it be to offer to see you more until he retired? Or would it be something totally different? I know his question seems like "Jeeze, what more do you want of me" and we read it as if he's thrown his hands up in the air with exasperation, but you know... Sometimes, when people ask me questions with attitude, and I answer them honestly, in a heartfelt way without attitude, it gets me a long way. |
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