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May 25, 2014, 11:25 PM
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So as most of you know, my T and I are very complicated and share a weird relationship. You all know about my transference but what my T doesn't know about me is I'm bisexual. I'm not open at all about it or any kind of sex talk. I'm terrified to tell T because I am afraid it will scare her off because of how close I think we are. I know, messed up, but I think I am in love with T. T knows about my "maternal" transference but I think that's evolved into romantic if that's possible, I just don't wont to admit it to anyone even myself because it scares me. I only have been seeing T every two weeks, and no we have not seen each other inbetween nor gone dancing or anything like that since the last time about a month ago. We text about every three days, and its like hey how are you or how is work kind of talk, no therapeutic talk. So I'll say this again IM NOT GETTING A NEW T! For those of you who tell me to run from her, I think it's far to gone and way to involved to just stop seeing her. I want to resolve everything and figure this crap relationship out! And also, T doesn't see anything wrong or unethical with how things between us have been, like she is in denial or something? She's only been a T for like 4 years so maybe that has a lot to do with it.
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May 25, 2014, 11:29 PM
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If you can get yourself to say it. I don't believe she will judge you, and her skills as a therapist should help you understand your feelings about her.
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May 26, 2014, 02:13 AM
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I wouldn't be surprised if she already knows GC, or at least suspects. Do try and talk to her about it. Tell her how scared you are. I think it will really improve things between you - a lot of the weirdness is likely coming from you trying to hide this.
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| CantExplain, GenCat
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May 26, 2014, 06:43 PM
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Quote:
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May 26, 2014, 06:54 PM
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T's don't ask.....they let you tell so the information is coming from you, not possible thoughts they have put in your mind by asking.....that way they know it originates from YOU.
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May 26, 2014, 08:15 PM
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The therapists I see ask me stuff all the time.
I think if there is something one wants a therapist to know, one simply has to tell them. "I have something I want to tell you = XYZ.."
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May 26, 2014, 08:46 PM
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There are questions & then there are questions that plant the seeds of thought direction. Those are the kind of questions or the way questions can be presented that T's avoid. They want the basis of the idea to originate from within the client own mind.
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May 26, 2014, 08:52 PM
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Some therapists may avoid such questions - the ones I see do not. The first one I see did ask if I was bisexual instead of lesbian.
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