Two hypothetical T related questions!

1. If you had a whole day (24 hours) with your T, how would you spend it?

2. If you could go on a trip with your T, anywhere in the world, where would you go?

I would spend my whole day with T going to the reef's and snorkeling.

I would go on a trip with my T to Machu Pichu in South America to see
the ancient Mayan pyramids. And go snorkeling.

Piraeus

I don't want to leave the room. I don't want to hang out with her. I don't want to see her all day. She's just a professional. Like a hairdresser or whatever. She serves a purpose and I pay for her expertise. That's it.

I still think she has ulterior motives and thinks the way I think is wrong. She wants me to have emotions I don't have. She thinks I should feel shame or something, when I don't. I think she thinks I'm sort of a horrible person.

Also, I think she's afraid of me. Truly afraid. And no one has ever been afraid of me before in that way. Which I guess is my fault for telling her my truths.

Whatever. Now I hate her. ****.

I would choose to do neither. Not because I wouldn't want to. But because that's not how the relationship should be.

I know, that's why I placed the question more in terms of fantasy/daydreaming rather than having this actually happen..

1) I guess I'd spend the whole day on talking about my childhood, eventually I'd have enough time and we wouldn't have to worry that the time will be up in a very inappropriate moment
2) Hmmm, I think I wouldn't like to go for holidays with my T nor spending my private time with her... Of course sometimes I daydream that I'd meet her on the party or after a train accident or whatever but still cannot imagine holidays with T - I prefer my H

1. Freaking out I can't imagine a whole day with my T without an overwhelming amount of anxiety. 50 minutes a week is stressful enough. I wouldn't mind trying a bit longer session though - like 90 minutes tops. Then maybe we'd get somewhere....

2. Could never travel with my T. Too many embarrassing moments like just everyday **** we have to do and he would observe that....yeah, no thanks.

Now that I'm out of the worst of the transference haze I wouldn't really want to do either. The relationship is too lopsided even for fantasy real life.

6 months ago I would have had an answer to your hypothetical question. Now I think I can say I'm happy having my dear T as my therapist and nothing else.

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LOL! Yeah I'd like 90 minute sessions as well; mine last barely 45!!!

That is definitely awesome!! well done!

Not at all interested. We'd probably kill each other.

A whole day with T would simply be a whole day of therapy with frequent breaks. Like - 2 hours of therapy, 2 hour break, repeat. I honestly wish I could do that just once - I take so long to get in to the difficult topics, and I need to process in between, that such a setting would be ideal for me. I imagine T would be really burned out doing something like that, though!

I wouldn't want to vacation with my T. I prefer to travel alone or with my dogs.

I'd be really burned out if I tried to do a whole day of therapy ;-)

I wouldnt have the brain power to last a day. If I can take one sentence a week away with me to work on Im happy.

Id probably spend an hour and let her have he rest of the day off. Seeing people like me Im sure she could use it!

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It's a hypothetical question. Everyone calm down!

Haha....and here I wss getting all excites thinking I'd done my good deed for the day.....

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I'd do a day of therapy so I could just be finished.

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If I had a whole 24 hours, I would show my T my house. I think it would be healing to see her in it. I would probably end up talking about less personal things, reliving my childhood and showing her objects in my room. I'd perhaps like to go out to eat with her, and listen to stories that she has about her life. I'd like to see her house too. I think it would be nice for her to pick an activity that she would find beneficial for me too... I imagine she would have us garden, or take a walk by the ocean. I also would like to play a game with her, so that she could see a different side of me. I'd really want her to see my real personality since I never showed that to her.

As for a vacation, it would be nice to be a guest in her house for awhile. Have her treat me like her child. All hypothetical of course.

That's really similar to my fantasy/hypothetical day with my T!

Probably gardening. Her favorite and most relaxing thing to do is get dirty buy planting and maintaining her flowers. She has a gorgeous yard. Over the last couple of years I have been working on "beautifying" our yard. I am pretty clueless about it though. I buy what is pretty and plan accordingly. She has been helping me advice here and there when I ask. If I had a whole day I would utilize her knowledge and her love for it and get my yard where I want it. I "enjoy" gardening but have been stressing over it being just right this year. With her knowledge I am sure I could find it very relaxing also.

As far as vacation??? Maybe Germany. My family is originally from Germany. So wasn't T's. She visited there years ago and loved it... I have always wanted to go there as there are very few people here with my maiden name....I know it is very common there.

Just Shakey, I really honestly want to know how you resolved the transference with your T. Any chance you could make a new topic on that? The transference with my T is driving me nuts with worry and fear. The experts say I'm supposed to grieve and cry that she can't be my mom, which certainly is easy to do, but when does the crying end?

1. If you had a whole day (24 hours) with your T, how would you spend it?
Okay so I've decided to get imaginative with this one. It's set in the therapy room but with some extra stuff that isn't usually in there, like a camping stove which my T would use to make us breakfast. Then we'd play board games for a few hours. Then we'd spread a picnic blanket on the floor and have a picnic out of a basket. Then we'd go out and walk down the street to this place where you can paint crockery and they glaze it for you (I've not been as this place is aimed at little kids) and we both paint matching mugs. Then we go back and have coffee in our new mugs. Then we set up a tent on the floor of the therapy room and have sausages and toasted marshmallows for our dinner. My T sits with me as I fall asleep.

Okay I really want that day now!

2. If you could go on a trip with your T, anywhere in the world, where would you go?
We'd go on a canal boat along the river, my T would do all the driving and I'd sit and watch the world go by.

1. I think we'd go shopping in a nearby touristy town and maybe go in a boat ride and just not talk. Or a long drive.

2. New Orleans and eat and drink and listen to jazz.

I would spend the day listening to him talk. I would love to take a camping trip with him and just hike and hang out.