[HazelGirl]

Pretty self-explanatory.

My T tells me quite a bit.

[wing]

Mine does too, including "Your diagnosis isn't the same as mine, but..."

[stopdog]

More than I actually want to know.

[HazelGirl]

Originally Posted by wing

Mine does too, including "Your diagnosis isn't the same as mine, but..."

Haha, I know my T's diagnoses (multiple ones), what it was like for her in therapy when she was in it, sometimes she'll mention her marriage or kids, etc...

This just came up in session a couple of weeks ago. He doesn't want to tell me much about himself because it makes an effective space from which to examine everything. It does work, let me tell you--the transference is amplified. We learn a lot about me by analyzing the thoughts and feelings I have about him to fill in all the 'blanks'.

Former T told me a lot about himself. He made himself vulnerable to me too. He has been, so far, the only person in the world who I ever trusted fully.

As time goes by she has shared progressively more tidbits, but still not what I would call a lot... and I pretty much don't ask her questions about herself... not that I'm not curious, cuz sometimes I am, but... I just don't...

[Mactastic]

Pretty much nothing. He shares his therapy with me when it's relevant but I know nothing about him - not his hobbies, his relationship status, his family - nothing. Maddening, but my feelings for him dictate this is best.

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Quite a bit, but we've worked together almost 10 years. It certainly didn't all come at once. I'm not one to ask prying questions. What I know has simply come from very natural conversations over time.

[sailorboy]

Hardly anything. I have a running tally of things I know.

[ruiner]

I chose a little bit. I never ask her questions, but she does throw personal things out there if it's relevant to what we're talking about.

My "main" T (It's kind of confusing and I don't know what else to call her) shared quite a lot and it was really awesome to hear. I've known her much longer though.

[OneWorld]

A fair amount. More than I know about my primary care physician but less than I know about my friends.

I know general information about her family (names, jobs, kids ages), some hobby info, where she has vacationed, etc. I also know some deeper things that have related to therapy conversations.

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[tooski]

He shares quite a bit, but only in context of the conversation or to show that he understands what I'm saying. He doesn't just sit there and prattle on about himself. But as 3 years have passed, all the little bits have added up so I feel like I know quite a bit about him. I don't think I could work with a T who never, ever self-disclosed. My T's level of self-disclosure is perfect for me.

[Victoria'smom]

I know she has teen twins and a 20 year old, she's very permissive with her kids, and she had PPD with her daughter, and she has 2 dogs. That's it after 3 yrs.

[sweepy62]

She discloses enough

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[kororain]

A little. She offered to tell me about herself in the first session, but I really didn't want her to. I was just afraid if she started talking, I'd see we had nothing in common and flee.

I think it's better to just learn about each other as we go. (For me.)

[RTerroni]

My outgoing Therapist has shared pretty much anything with me, we will see what my new Therapist is willing to share with me.

[junkDNA]

T tells me he is bipolar, that his mom died when he was in grad school, i know who is girlfriend is, and who his T is cuz he took me to meet her, what he likes to watch (tv/movies)...idk....he doesnt really hide a lot but i dont really ask that many questions about it. he just offers it

[Flyawayblue]

Basic stuff and small chat. I don't really ask nor want to know.

[clairelisbeth]

I've been seeing her for almost 4 years, and so I've learned a decent amount over time. If she shares information on purpose, it's definitely because she feels it would be beneficial to me and my therapy. If I ask her questions, we always explore where the question is coming from, and so far, she has always answered me.

Here and there, she'll mention things that to me, seem relatively benign, like where she is going on vacation, the name of a pet, or "oh, I'm reading that book that's sticking out of your bag too!" Because I've been in T school while seeing her (the same school that she went to, which was not done purposefully) she's shared a lot about her own experiences while in school, and while at that school specifically.

He has told me, when I asked, how long he has lived in Sweden and the fact that he likes his job. And that he has gone through therapy himself, but I knew that because he would not be allowed to practise otherwise. I also know a bit about his tastes in music and literature, because that comes up as part of my therapy, sometimes.

Hardly anything at all, If she does which is very rare it is because it's relevant to my therapy.

[AllyIsHopeful]

She answers any question and sometimes shares things without me asking. Sometimes we have normal conversations not relating to therapy and I learn a lot about her. There was an extremely private and emotional question I once asked her and she surprisingly answered with a fair amount of detail. I like knowing so much about her because I enjoy how human the connection feels. Her vulnerability and her silly stories make me comfortable being vulnerable with her and sharing nonsensical things without feeling embarrassed.

I think I would die with the "blank slate" approach...or if all the questions were answered after analyzing why I want to know something and why it is important to our relationship. I'd probably respond with "because it is! Gosh!" lol

[tinyrabbit]

I would also struggle with a blank slate approach.

I can ask anything and he shares stuff if he thinks it's beneficial to me or just that it's okay for me to know. I know quite a lot of random things. I was particularly happy when I asked his star sign and he actually answered (he's a Leo...)

[someone321]

My previous T didn't say a single word about himself but my current T says a bit... Not much - maybe because I haven't asked her about anything but she has told me e.g. that she's married and that her H got retired this year so probably she'll be taking more holidays than she used to take... I guess that I can qualify as "A little bit, but only what she/he knows would definitely be beneficial"

[Cocosurviving]

I never ask any question....not even "how was your weekend" or "do you have kids?"
My first T shared things abt relating to me in certain situations. In doing so she would
tell me little things abt her family.
I moved out of state
In less than a yr (almost) my new T began opening up as well. She gave me examples of her and
her husband making tough decisions. We talk abt being moms. She told me, she deals with depression.

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