[RTerroni]

Well I just had my next to last session with my current Therapist and I would say that it went pretty well. They did assign me with a Female which I am very happy about (really didn't want to see a Male), and my Therapist told me that she is pretty flexible on certain issues like she was. We discussed a lot of transition things today as well as things for next session (my final session with her) in particular how I typically hug (since we will be hugging at the end of the last session which is next week), I mentioned how a have a pretty standard hug with a firm but not too tight embrace which lasts for about three seconds (often I count to three in my ahead) and she told me that she was OK with that I am hoping for a very satisfying hug and I hope to go out on the best terms possible which I never have done with a prior Therapist before. All is all a very good session which really set things up for our final session which takes place on Tuesday.

[someone321]

I'm glad it goes as well as possible under these circumstances... I hope that next week you'll get the best hug ever and you'll be satisfied with the way how the closure will look like... When do you have your first session with new T?

[RTerroni]

Originally Posted by someone321

I'm glad it goes as well as possible under these circumstances... I hope that next week you'll get the best hug ever and you'll be satisfied with the way how the closure will look like... When do you have your first session with new T?

My first session with my new Therapist will be on June 11th at 2 PM, which interestingly enough was the exact same day and time that I was scheduled to meet with my outgoing Therapist had she not been leaving.

Yes I do hope that I get a very satisfying hug at the end of the final session next week, I just hope that it doesn't seem too scripted, especially since I will have known about her leaving (and thus the hug at the final session) for 3 weeks by the time we have out last session, plus I even said today how I expect to hug and she agreed to it.

It's good to hear you are having a good ending; well as good as endings can be. The endings are important, too. Every step of the process teaches us something...

[NoddaProbBob]

Transitioning over to a new therapist is hard. Probably one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. It's much easier to sever ties with a therapist who isn't meeting our needs. I know I've been there. Both severing with a therapist who wasn't meeting my needs and also having to transition from a therapist that was leaving the office.

It has taken me almost a year to finally talk about the effects of my therapist leaving the office. I wish I would have been willing to talk about it sooner. Her departure from the office ultimately became a huge roadblock in my recovery process. I didn't feel "right" talking to the new therapist about it. I know it's not a huge deal for them because it is a common topic, but I just couldn't do it. It wasn't until that I destroyed the relationship with my therapist that I finally was able to realize that I needed to talk about it. Ever since I decided to trust her with those feelings, I have felt so much better. And I think she has too.

So I guess, my advice to you is to allow yourself to grieve and take time. This is a big loss and you need to give yourself sometime to work through it. Whether that be with the new therapist or with a different therapist, or on your own. But don't be afraid to process it with the new therapist. I think this would be a great way to build some trust between you both as well!

Be kind to yourself in the midst of this

[sweepy62]

Transitioning is difficult, I am glad you dont have to wait long to see a new t, you started seeing your current t, at the same time, i transitioned over to my new t. I hope your hug goes well, just dont think about it, just do it. oh and let us know how it went ok.