[kittyfaye]

So I told my T I want to take a break from therapy. In all honesty I really quit. After only 5 or 6 sessions she told me I wasn't progressing well. She also said some things I didn't agree with that made me angry. Say what you will but I'm not going back.

[gma45]

Sometimes we have to go through a few therapist before we find the right one that we can relate to.
Maybe that's an option for you? Sometimes they just don't understand us. Don't feel bad just move on. I hope things work out. We are here for ya.

[tametc]

Originally Posted by kittyfaye

So I told my T I want to take a break from therapy. In all honesty I really quit. After only 5 or 6 sessions she told me I wasn't progressing well. She also said some things I didn't agree with that made me angry. Say what you will but I'm not going back.

Maybe quit the therapist, but not therapy. I don't think I'd stay with one who told me I wasn't progressing well after only a short time. I've been fortunate to have quite a few very good Ts over the years, and I won't settle for one I don't click with.

[catastrophic]

Huge hugs xox

Quit for now, if that is what you need, but go back maybe to a different therapist.

Remember you are paying them for a service if her service aint working for you go somewhere else...

[kittyfaye]

Oh and one week she said she would call and check on me after a rather hard session but I never got a call. Kinda pissed me off. She was also supposed to discuss with me a quiz she made me take and she never did that either. :/

[Rive.]

You don't have to go back to her, kittyfaye & seems like you didn't this one trustworthy.

Maybe she's just not the right fit for you. If therapy would help you at all, by all means do look around for someone who would be better at understanding and relating to you but also in keeping their word.

[growlycat]

She may not be right for you. I'm surprised she made a judgement on your "progress" only after 5 or 6 sessions. She sounds inexperienced

[AllyIsHopeful]

From how this sounds, I don't blame you for not wanting to go back.
Sometimes Therapists get things wrong and we have to correct them... But the part that doesn't seem right is her saying "you aren't progressing well" after only 6 sessions. It is possible she is not a good fit for your needs and lacks the tools to effectively help you.

Sometimes it takes a few tries to find the right Therapist. I know it is such a frustrating process but it will be worth it when you find the right one.

[hinzc7711]

Agree with others here; as always a second opinion is verification of your progress. If taking a break works, as it allows you to do a little self checking (keep a journal). Then you can recall emotions and setbacks if they consume you and look at things happening on paper, easier, as you can compare and contrast why you are feeling the way you were. A good T will help you, but putting some time and effort into yourself is probably
Due. Never quit, flowers keep coming back, weeds even stronger! Hope you are doing good.

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[stopdog]

I always find quitting to be a good idea if that is what one wants. I don't think therapy always works and it is certainly not the only way to help oneself.

[IndestructibleGirl]

Six sessions is no time at all, was the modality cbt?

Don't let this put you off going to therapy in general, though. You are sure to click with another one.

[Ford Puma]

Try another T.
Therapy would take a lot more than a few sessions before it will start to work.
That is what I think anyway.

I agree with the other responses.... it's so important to find the right fit in therapy. I saw two other t's before I found my current t who I have been talking to for 2.5 years and we have a strong and positive therapeutic relationship. For me, anyway, healing has been all about that relationship!! I've taken a break twice during that time and it's always been helpful, sometimes I just need to "absorb".

And to say you're not making progress after only 5 or 6 sessions? Wow, that seems kind of fast to make a judgement like that.... maybe she is new like someone else said. Don't give up please. I am so thankful that I tried "one more time" after the initial 2 t's were not good fits.... I found a gem in my current t. It's SO worth it to keep on trying and find the t that you 'click' with. SO worth it!! I wish you all the best!

[Leah123]

I wonder if it wasn't single issue CBT type work? There, six sessions would be considered sufficient to see progress, or in cases where there's a limited number of sessions available due to insurance or other restrictions, I know there can be that pressure to progress quickly.

Hope you find someone more helpful!

[msxyz]

I wouldn't want to see a therapist with such unrealistic expectations of sudden betterment either.

[musinglizzy]

I would have been very upset to be told I was not making "progress." In 5-6 sessions, really, he/she should still be learning about you. I've only had two sessions so far, and I really don't feel we've even BEGUN yet.

[kittyfaye]

She has her own business as a licensed counselor and I liked her at first. I think she was expecting me to just absorb everything she was telling me and get better quickly. My issues stem from way back when I was a kid for the most part and some of my method of thinking has to change but all that is going to take a long time. She was using sliding scale payment with me because I have no insurance. I'm just not sure I'll find another T where I live now because I just moved to a small town and there's nothing here.

[musinglizzy]

Good luck in your search for a new T. It's nearly impossible, I think, to absorb everything instantly. I know for me, my mind wanders, and I feel overwhelmed, and have a gazillion thoughts in my head all at once. So, even though I do care what my T has to say, I think there are moments during the session where she sounds more like CHarlie Brown's mom. It's not her fault, and it's not me tuning her out. It's me trying to keep control of myself.

[Lauliza]

I don't think everyone needs to go to therapy. Unless you are having trouble functioning or more serious issues, then don't go if you don't want to. A t proclaiming you haven;t made progress in 6 months is really rushing things, but maybe it just wasn't for you.