[someone321]

Have you ever had a session after which you felt: "wow, that was really, really great..."? And you left just amazed and it didn't matter whether the session's topic was light or tough and it didn't have to be a breakthrough, just the session went much better than you expected...

I had such a session today and I thought about sharing it with you so I can come back to this thread when I do not feel so happy about my therapy but I also hope that you can share your best ever session (regardless of whether it has already happened or you hope that it will happen )

I've just finished this thread but when I realized how long it was, I had to delete it and put bullet points instead of it :

My ideal session took place today:
- I came in a "don't care" mood but my T knew exactly how to handle it.
- T told me about all her holidays this year so that I could "prepare" myself,
- after my bad mood after the last session, fortunately T didn't resign from starting the trauma work but promised to do grounding and put more rules
- I admitted that my biggest fear regarding trauma work is that I could start crying... And my T gave me great feedback (also mentioning something about crying together )
- we have eventually started trauma work! And the grounding after it was really, really good
- I allowed myself staying a little bit longer (usually when the time is up, I make it very clear that time is up and we have to finish)
- I started talking about my time slots and...
- T suggested to have 90 min sessions instead of 60 min! And...
- I accepted that even as it will be my slot just half an hour longer so my T will have to stay at work longer because of me...

Just wow...

[gayleggg]

So glad you had one of those great counseling visits. I've had one or two but can't remember them now. Glad you shared with us.

[stopdog]

Glad it happened for you.
The one I see wrecked the appointment I had by trying to talk.

[someone321]

Originally Posted by stopdog

Glad it happened for you.
The one I see wrecked the appointment I had by trying to talk.

Oh yes, I know what you mean but couldn't you tell her to simply talk less? At the beginning I had this problem with my current T. she was talking too much and too obvious things, but I gave have a polite but honest feedback and it is much much better now... She always explains everything what I ask about (concerning therapy or her methods of course), like "why do you ask about it?" Or "why did you do that, why do you think it's important, why do you need this information" etc. but she doesn't talk too much if she sees that I'm not interested (and I make it obvious when I am not interested)

[stopdog]

I have told her but sometimes, like today, she still does and it is so pointless when she does.

I hope you like going 90 minutes.

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by stopdog

Glad it happened for you.
The one I see wrecked the appointment I had by trying to talk.

Hasnt she figured out yet her role is psychoanalyst and she's supposed to just nod?! Maybe you should bring her a cigar

[Petra5ed]

I think if my T told me he wanted to see me for 90 minute sessions that would make my day in and of itself, mostly because I have a fear he doesn't like talking to me (irrational as that is LOL) and that would seem to show he actually liked working with me, but also because I would have 30 more minutes to look forward to...

I know I've left a session feeling great but I cant remember the specifics of those times right now and why I felt that way. Sometimes I feel great. Sometimes I leave and immediately feel needy and am sad the session is over.

[growlycat]

Wow, that is a lot of good stuff happening all in one session. I hope she keeps up the momentum!!

[sweepy62]

That's wonderful , I leave a session wanting to say more.

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[musinglizzy]

So far, I have too. I just get to the point where I'm more comfortable and the words are flowing....and then it's time to stop. I feel like it's going to take a LONG LONG time to get anywhere at this rate. I'm not one who finds talking easy. I've been able to pull it off fairly well though. I wish we had more time. I go in weekly, 50 minutes per session....but I almost thing going in every other week, but having a longer session, would be beneficial. But, I don't know if she does longer sessions. I know she does for couples. My appt is tomorrow afternoon, and i"m actually looking forward to it. ~Liz

[someone321]

Originally Posted by musinglizzy

So far, I have too. I just get to the point where I'm more comfortable and the words are flowing....and then it's time to stop. I feel like it's going to take a LONG LONG time to get anywhere at this rate. I'm not one who finds talking easy. I've been able to pull it off fairly well though. I wish we had more time. I go in weekly, 50 minutes per session....but I almost thing going in every other week, but having a longer session, would be beneficial. But, I don't know if she does longer sessions. I know she does for couples. My appt is tomorrow afternoon, and i"m actually looking forward to it. ~Liz

Maybe it would be worth to ask her actually? With my previous T I also had 50 min sessions, and even when sometimes they took place twice a week, it didn't help - it was just too short! Already these 10 min made a difference to me, and 90 minwhic I had once was just amazing... But of course I might get used to it very fast and want to have it longer and longer
Maybe you could before preoare a list with topics to discuss? Or try to visualize yourself talking to T so that it could be a bit easier for you at the session?

[Wysteria]

Someone321...

Just...AWEsomeness!! So very glad that your session went so wonderfully and that T was so thoughtful, responsive, loving and wise...
You are very lucky indeed and it is great to see!!!
Keep up the hard work and keep checking in to tell us..
Rub those good feeling in and keep that mental Kodak handy for future use...

Hugs and High Fives!!

- WB