[SilentGirl808]

Yesterday in the morning I went to my therapy session. My therapist was kind enough to ask if I wanted some tea, and regretfully I said "No thanks" while my mind was focusing on what I was about to tell him during our session and I was feeling nervous about it, I wasn't clearly hearing what he said. Maybe this may sound stupid, or maybe I might have been imagining it and hoping it might be true. I just thought of this late last night when I was filling out a volunteer application and looked down at the pen that the lady from job services who was nice to have given it to me. What if my therapist set up an appointment early because he wanted to offer me tea? Was it something like a birthday present (I told him before I had my birthday last weekend) or did he happen to ask if I wanted some because I showed up few minutes early? Does anybody who had been in therapy wished for their therapist to give them a gift of some sort?

[HazelGirl]

Mine has offered tea a few times before, but not every week. Mostly in response to something I said (like I have a sore throat or I'm thirsty just as random comments).

Originally Posted by SilentGirl808

Yesterday in the morning I went to my therapy session. My therapist was kind enough to ask if I wanted some tea, and regretfully I said "No thanks" while my mind was focusing on what I was about to tell him during our session and I was feeling nervous about it, I wasn't clearly hearing what he said. Maybe this may sound stupid, or maybe I might have been imagining it and hoping it might be true. I just thought of this late last night when I was filling out a volunteer application and looked down at the pen that the lady from job services who was nice to have given it to me. What if my therapist set up an appointment early because he wanted to offer me tea? Was it something like a birthday present (I told him before I had my birthday last weekend) or did he happen to ask if I wanted some because I showed up few minutes early? Does anybody who had been in therapy wished for their therapist to give them a gift of some sort?

I’ve had similar experiences, and unfortunately I realized after the fact that none of them were ‘T trying extra-hard to make me feel special’. So wishful thinking I can’t say for sure what your T’s intentions were, but it sounds like a standard offering.

[tinyrabbit]

My therapist offered me coffee once and that led to weeks of assumptions and paranoia on my part about why he didn't mention it before, why he offered it then, why he subsequently offered it at some times and not others...

Turns out he offers if he's making some and that's all there is to it!

[sweepy62]

My t always offers water or tea or coffee, but I always turn I down.

[clairelisbeth]

My T drinks tea all the time. She sometimes offers me a cup randomly and almost always offers it on a super cold day or if I'm having a really hard time. I find it to be very kind and nurturing.

I've never really wished for a tangible gift from her....but I do have to say that I was very grateful when she brought us cupcakes to a session to celebrate my birthday (my mother put very strict restrictions on sweets for me growing up, even on my birthday. At one point, I hadn't had my own birthday cake in 3 years).

It was really sweet of her, and it made me feel really cared for. She remembered my favorite type and everything.

[junkDNA]

T always asks me if i want some chocolate. i tell him every time no i dont like chocolate that much. but he still does it. and eats it in front of me. lol

[growlycat]

I have a lot of history with main T around hot beverages!!!

He started off early on offering us coffee for our am appointments. Even though we did not do it all the time, it became a bonding ritual. Sometimes he would get it and later, I started to offer to bring it. We would take turns.

When I started opening up to him about past neglect/abuse , we agreed to structure therapy so we had the coffee ritual and he said I could ask for a hug. At the beginning of one of these sessions, I burst into tears when I thought he had forgotten. He didn't, it was just old stuff leaving me feeling like I should expect to be forgotten about.

So this beverage thing has gotten me through many difficult processing sessions.

[SilentGirl808]

It wasn't just tea he offered. Right before I went into his office while carrying my bag, he asked if I wanted my water bottle as he went to get it for me but I replied that I could just leave it there in the small waiting room, and I could then tell he was feeling upset about that. It was as if he wanted to make me feel special. It always kills me to see somebody upset. It also feels like he's attracted to me; although, I imagined that when I had crushes on teachers in school. Am I allowed to ask how he's feeling? I feel like I need to discuss this, rather during our next session or by e-mail if I couldn't wait much longer.

[Raging Quiet]

My t used to offer it in the early stages, but I always declined so she never asks now. I kind of wish she would. The only water in the room is for her so I always bring my own water bottle now.

[growlycat]

Originally Posted by SilentGirl808

It wasn't just tea he offered. Right before I went into his office while carrying my bag, he asked if I wanted my water bottle as he went to get it for me but I replied that I could just leave it there in the small waiting room, and I could then tell he was feeling upset about that. It was as if he wanted to make me feel special. It always kills me to see somebody upset. It also feels like he's attracted to me; although, I imagined that when I had crushes on teachers in school. Am I allowed to ask how he's feeling? I feel like I need to discuss this, rather during our next session or by e-mail if I couldn't wait much longer.

He is probably offering some caretaking that you may have missed out on. It is easy to mistake that for romantic love.