How do you think your therapist really feels about you?

I know you probably go back and forth on this, because at least I do... but if you really think about it right now, how do you think your therapist really feels about you?

Neutral I imagine. I pay on time, I leave on time, and I have no major mental health issues.

intresting question , think my last one perhaps felt a little bit challenged !!

I probably would've voted that he hates me not too long ago, but I think maybe he cares a little.

I voted true love, because that is what it is, although not like a parent or even a friend. The therapy relationship can't be placed in neat categories or described in easy comparisons to other traditional relationships. But I have no doubt it is true love, just of its own type.

true love like a parent

Ex-t probably wishes he never met me and probably really wishes that i would leave him the hell alone. New t doesn't care, new t does not know me.

I can't really vote, cuz it isn't any of those, it's that whole therapy love thing like 1914sierra said, it's the most unique relationship of my almost-52 years, one that I wouldn't trade for any other kind of relationship. Wrapped up in that therapylove is respect, compassion, sometimes a little bit of awe, it's just, so different, so healing.

I chose true love like a parent.
T has stated that she cares about me, and has stated that I remind her of her children etc. We have never in-depth talked about this but small bits pop up now and then. Im ok with this, actually lets be honest - I really like it haha.

Thought long ago that there was a special bond but then I woke up. It was just a dream.

I picked true love like a parent feels for a child, though to be honest there is a little truth in all those about caring. I would have picked "cares moderately or a lot" but even though I see him acting as a friend, I know that for him it's different and he wouldn't offer to a friend anything close to what he's offering his clients. I'm also not sure how quickly he'd be over it if I died ... but I know he cares a lot about me while I'm alive.

I get in trouble in therapy when I start thinking this way. But I feel that he finds me incredibly irritating and relentless on breaking boundaries. And that I'm way too intense.

“I’m good at loving books. I’m good at loving soft bed sheets. I’m good at loving coffees and teas. I am good at loving things that can’t love me back, that don’t have the power to leave. And maybe, that’s why I love them.”

I think he has headaches because of me

Timely blog on transference with list of articles: Transference: Empirical Study | Psychology Today

It's a true care

This is very true, and I really should have had this as an option, but I suppose I wasn't thinking about it as it's own kind of love. I will from now on! I would say this is exactly what I feel as well, for T and vice versa. I think respect and compassion is a lot of it, like you said.

He would love it if I actually was able to kill myself! And then he'd probably go after whatever money I have left that he hasn't taken.

I guess she cares about me like one might feel about a coworker or a similar relationship. Not friends, but more than a stranger.

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I don't know. I couldn't pick one because I don't know.

She's nice enough to me, but I think she thinks I'm piddly. Like maybe I'm just selfish and nothing that's wrong is a big deal and I should just get over it. Also, why is that I'm bothering her with this junk again?

I guess T cares. She knows I'm going through a lot. I am stubborn and defensive at times. Making her job much more harder than it is. My daughters T adores her. Even if she's the most challenging client at T has had.

Ouch, that sounds like a painful relationship Jpny. My wish for you is that you find a relationship with a t where you are able to experience their feelings of caring towards you. You are worth this. Please take care and don't hurt yourself.