[lrt1978]

So my T cancelled at short notice today, as on 45 mins before my appointment. It's sent me spinning.

How do you guys manage or deal with high feelings/emotions when your T cancels at short notice ?

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[precaryous]

I'm sorry!
Did T explain why? When do you see T again?

Sometimes I write out my feelings..things I'd say to T. How canceling on short notice made me feel. You can either send it to T, share at next meeting, or not send at all.

Sometimes I wrap myself up in a big comforter and either sleep, read or watch TV.

If I'm feeling inconsolable, I remind myself that I usually will have a different (better) attitude after a good nights sleep. I might take half a Benadryl to go to sleep.

Do something nice for yourself- have a swim or a nice soaking bath.

[lrt1978]

It was a message through someone else, was told something had come up that she couldn't get out of. Have no idea when seeing next, have to wait for her to call me.

It's feels like I have gone Into meltdown. Have had a bad week and felt that I needed the session today. I understand it's not her fault, these things happen, but it's sent me spiralling. I keep bursting into tears, which feels abit over the top but can't help it. Just feel all over place xx

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I found it quite helpful to write things down, as I would send it to my T. But then again, I decide to keep it with me for another day or so. But I promise myself that as soon as it's on the paper or in an email, I let go of it (until the next day) and do something nice for myself. Like last time I went for pizza instead of having my appointment.
Then the following day, I go through what I wrote down once again and try to notice whether anything inside of me changed. Are the feelings still that strong or do I think it was a bit exaggerated? In the first case I might still decide to send it to my T after all. In the second case I give it a bit more time and quite often, by day 3 I don't consider sending it anymore.

It can be very helpful not to deny what you feel, but also not to give it a chance to linger. Write it down and let go of it. But, more importantly, give yourself the opportunity to get back to it if you feel like you have to. :-)
Also if you decide to send it... Once it's gone, it's gone. Don't start thinking 'should I have sent it or not?'. Because in most cases the feeling won't stay that strong and then you blame yourself for having sent it maybe (which happened a lot to me). Please don't. Try to see that, at that moment, it felt like the right thing to do. And then when you or your T wants to talk about it, you can. Sometimes I think it's quite useless afterwards, because I'm not this upset anymore. But it's not. You'll realize this by the next time it happens once again. At least, that's how it works for me. :-)

[Wysteria]

I'm sorry IRT...
Have to assume your T does this only rarely if ever...I know it hurts and especially felt need to see her. Please be patient with her and yourself.. You know she wouldn't do this without a dang good reason..

I would email her with how you are feeling and that you were really disappointed not to see them today and understand but just hurting..

Try to take care of yourself and picture what T would say if they were with you...hang in there and distract when you can...You'll see them soon and you can do this, even if it is very hard...

Gentle hugs,
WB

Originally Posted by lrt1978

I keep bursting into tears, which feels abit over the top but can't help it. Just feel all over place xx

It's not over the top at all. We all need to feel emotionally supported, and especially when you're feeling vulnerable. You felt you needed the session, and what you're feeling is totally understandable. As others have said, write about it. And hopefully sharing it on this forum can help a little too

[lrt1978]

I have been seeing her for a year and this is the first time this has happened. Normally she moves things around, so cancelling doesn't happen. So it must of been out of her hands today. I understand she is busy, her schedule is full, so it's not a her fault at all. I just didn't expect to feel like this at all xx

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[RTerroni]

Sorry about that, hopefully you will be able to re-schedule

[growlycat]

Try to remember the moment, no matter how painful and when you see your T again just let him know how hard it was for you. It is easy to go to the next session and try to pretend it wasn't a big deal.

It is important to let T know so they can help you in your reactions.

[iheartjacques]

That feels terrible. My psychiatrist didn't cancel our session, I walked out before it started because he was so late and I was so mad. But I feel really down now. I keep checking my emails and texts to see if there's anything. No reply, no apology. Not sure if I'll get offered an appt next week, or wait for the regular one in 2 weeks, or if I've been fired.