How Many Have Been Hurt By A T?

I agree. If I were counting the therapists' who'd hurt me at all, I'd say two. My current therapist has said some things that caused me a great deal of pain, however, she was willing to work it through and stick with me while I reacted and work it out. And her error was one of misunderstanding, which I think is common, just varies by degree.

That's why I said I was really only hurt by the one therapist: the one who was just incompetent. She didn't mean any harm, but by not doing her job well enough, by having a major failure, she did hurt me badly.

Therapists are fake. Fake friends,fake support, fake people in your life. Seriously they would have no time for you if you weren't their job. You are just a job and the cruel thing that no one tells you or they do not tell you, is you will get hurt the minute you feel any attachment because it is like a friendship that is backwards, distorted or all wrong. People who can not make friends or have none should never get involved with therapy ever. You are better off being as messed up or broken as you think you are then to be left a damn emotional confused mess.

i was sexually abused by a T. but i now work with a diff T who is also male but much much different and i trust and know he would never do anything to hurt me

I've written about some of the T exploitation on other posts.

There were two exploiters..a third T hurt me by ending badly with me.

The worst offender sexually abused me. What I haven't told you - or even T:
He also convinced me that he should *hold* my $4000.00 that I got from my Medicare disability case because he was concerned I would "spend it all."

I never saw it again.

That's how attached, naive and trusting I was.

Yes, I was betrayed by my ex T , who initiated a romantic relationship with in the same sentence as terminating therapy because of her " feelings " for me.

Was I in love with her? I 'd fantasized, and made up wonderful stories in my head. Once we began the relationship, it was interesting to find out what stories were close to the truth and which were totally fantasy. She didn't disclose much in therapy . What was not truth- that she was kind ( actually sadistic, meanspirited), liked teenagers ( she spewed venom about my teenager, who was a great kid! ) , and loved me so much she was willing to give up everything. Funny, that sounds like I'm angry, but I mostly just feel hopeless about it. If you want to know how it has affected me, read the lists of symptoms - kenneth Pope has me down cold.

I have a new T- we're working on undoing the damage. Wish I could send ex-T the bill.

Does not your new need have to report your last T?

My exT got me fired. He reported my policy breech to my company. I know that bastard did. It was not some random audit. I was singled out. That is also why he did not give a rats *** I terminated him.

I have been totally devastated and traumatized by my old therapist. The worst part is I thought he really cared about me and was committed to helping me to the end. To have him give up on me has totally decimated me. I know for sure now that I am hopeless and disgusting and repulsive and all the things I begged him not to give up on me for. I know he thinks those things of me now.

I really think I have PTSD resulting from this. I had it before, but now it is even worse. I trusted him. I told him things I never ever had told anyone before and never will again. I trusted his hope in me. I saw him for seven years. I tried. I thought I did anyway. I am so confused about the ending and have no closure and it is raw and ragged. I don't understand it. I still am debating whether or not to report him for the unethical way he ended therapy.

I do think therapy is largely a con and yet I find myself right back in it. I agree with so many of the points of the articles missbella posted. Therapy is so unscientific. It's dangerous to so many of us and can leave us much worse off. Lots of people who have "good" therapists blame us for things going wrong and that is fine. I just hope so much that others don't have to go through the pain of being damaged, abused or hurt by a horrible therapist.

Never taken advantage of no. Driven up the wall as we say here Yes. Lots of times. Some times they don't mean it and some times they try and provoke a response of some kind.
By the large though I find them OK. Unless I am in a bad mood then its.... crumbs....

idk who this question was to but if it was to me i told my old pdoc what was going on and pdoc helped me report the T that abused me to the state's board of psychology. they investigated me and the T but T refused to cooperate so they permanently revoked his license and he had to pay a fine. it's not illegal in my state to do what he did. but i sued him after that and his malpractice insurance company basically settled to pay me basically so i would shut up about it

Yes, new T checked with a lawyer , and she did need to report if ex T was still practicing except ex T had given up her licenses voluntarily when she thought she might get reported. I could still report.

I still think about reporting . But I grew to love ex T`s family . Without any transference. i guess! Her mother is almost 90, and I can't see hurting her that way when I'm not sure it would do me any good.

He hurt me by setting boundaries. It hurts for me. And its my fault.

What makes you think it is your fault?

I mean its not his fault that he hurts me. Its fault because i want him to cross boundaries with me. Sometimes he seems so cruel but i know he isnt. He just want to be perfect therapist thats all.

Melania, even if you stood in the middle of the room and took off your clothes, it would never be your fault. That T was trained in ethics, he took an oath to do no harm, he knew crossing boundaries would probably be harmful for you. You knew none of that. He did.

It was always his duty to maintain boundaries no matter what you said or did.

It was never your fault.

We cant take responsibility from us and say that we are saints.
Im not.

And as i said- it hurts for me that he sets boundaries and it makes me happy when he cross the boundaries but he doesnt do it anymore thats why it hurts.
It cant be his fault, he does his job but i want more. Thats all.

I realy really hate when people and also my t say that its something harmful. It tortures me that he thinks that way.

There is no sense to discus with me about it. I have different opinion.

It cant be his fault that i love him and that i hate his boundaries.

It's not his fault that you love him.

Of course it made you happy when he crossed boundaries. It made me happy when it happened to me. I was upset when it stopped. I was confused why it stopped, when he said it was right, before.

Then my feelings changed.

We aren't so different.

Your t was horrible from what i remember i have read

Yes maybe you understand me if you have felt the same.
Before we crossed the line it was as painful as it for now that he is so cold and that he loves his boundaries more then me.
But i dont want to think about it. I want to think about good not bad things because it helps me to feel oka.

First T I ever went to (scared to death to take the plunge...serious trust issues) I saw for a few months. Never really liked him from the start, but did not know any better. So.....one day I am making dinner and watching tv at the same time and guess who is in handcuffs on tv at the county courthouse....T JERK!!!!! His license was already pulled and the arrogant *** still had the nerve to practice. I felt so violated. I called the State and told them the little prick was still "in business". The nailed his *** and I got ALL my money back!!! Imagine trying to trust another. Took me years to trust a professional again. I am in great hands now, but it took years to believe someone could actually care about me or my stuff. I have put new T through the wringer and he has proven himself. I love him!