I just wanted to share something amazing about how therapy can help you in unexpected ways.

At work there is some tension between some of the colleagues in my team. Last week one of them came talking to me, the next day another guy came over to talk to me.

Which by itself is kind of surprising... as if they really wanted my advice, trusted me and could express their emotions to me, etc. But what's even more is that I went to my boss today, telling how bad I felt for them both. Told that I understand their points of view (from both of them), but also feel their pain. I mentioned how sad I thought it was that they both left on holidays feeling this bad about the tension in the team and asked what we could to about it.

And maybe this is not a big thing, but to me it is. I have always been someone who's extremely hard to get to know, someone who doesn't show emotions and even someone who once doubted whether I wasn't simply born numb, without any feelings at all.

My therapy made me discover my own feelings. After numerous sessions in which I said 'But I don't know how I feel', I slowly discover that underneath my stoic appearance, there is a human being... with a heart and feelings. Discovering this was great, but what makes it really worthwhile for me is being aware of other people's feelings too. I now know it when I hurt others, I sense it when there's problems at work or with friends,...

And THAT is great. I love it, even though having feelings and actually feeling them also means that you'll often feel more pain. But I start to appreciate this life with ups and downs, because I learned to trust my lows (and my ability to get through them, I guess).

If someone would have told me this two years ago, I would never have believed it... So I guess miracles do happen in therapy. But sometimes they take place slowly and by the time they fully appear we hardly remember where we came from and how huge the change actually is. But there's days like today where I get a glimpse of the person I once was, compare it to 'this day' and smile.

If you have a similar story, please share!

[gayleggg]

Fowardinreverse, thank you for posting your great success with therapy. We love to here happy stories around here.

Thanks! Tried to spread some positive energy today.
Hope it worked.

[growlycat]

That is great that you have skills you didn't know you had. And your team trusts you to be fair!!!

[iheartjacques]

It's great to be able to look back and see something new you previously didn't do

Absolutely. And you know, this happens so gradually that you hardly notice what a hugeeee difference it is. As if it's the most normal thing in the world, while it's absolutely not.

Ah, life with therapy can be great!