[always_wondering]

I find it interesting that most times I go into a therapy session, I have expectations of how things will go. But, I'm usually way off from my predictions. I go in thinking we will discuss a situation, and I come out finding out something about myself I never knew and not even talk about the problem I went in for. Or, my T will be in a different mood from the week before, maybe more encouraging or sometimes just off. Or sometimes my brain freezes and i can't think straight. Are any of you often surprised by your session outcomes?

[kororain]

I feel like we always go way too in depth about something I intended to only touch on briefly. Like I'm just letting her know how I handled it, and I'm all good. But she obviously thinks I'm not all good, or didn't handle it right or whatever. Then we spend the whole hour talking about how I should handle it next time. And then we never get to the thing I actually wanted to talk about. Ugh.

[OneWorld]

They often don't go as I expect they will go but last session was really surprising. She asked something and I answered and thought we would move past it but we ended up having one of our most meaningful sessions as we got to the roots of some things.

So, yes, I understand where you are coming from.

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[stopdog]

Yes- but I believe it is because the one I see is completely inconsistent. It is never good.

My session yesterday was one of those unpredictable ones, if only because of how emotional I got. I didn't expect that to happen, I'd been doing a lot of work on my own and wasn't crying about it at the time, so was a little surprised at my tears when sharing it all with t, especially when she said she already knew what I was finally telling her... it is true that she'd just been waiting for me to catch up, as I posted somewhere on here recently.... I guess it was just, that she made me feel so HEARD.... crybaby city!!! lol

[Two89w]

I go to my sessions usually with a head full of emotions and it takes her half of the session to get me to a level where I am able to take on board what I need to understand. I am sure she thinks sometimes when is he going to get it! So I don't know if I make it unpredictable or she does My next visit I have some very specific things to talk about (sex and sexuality) which I have rehearsed in my head over and over so I am hoping it will be a little more predictable.

[Oceanwave]

Do you experience something similar in real life? For instance, you have a goal or focus but then things turn out differently? Perhaps this is something you'd need to work on and definitely mention to your therapist.

[iheartjacques]

usually I go in to talk about stuff I'm dealing with, but sometimes a question will throw me off.

[Mactastic]

Some of my best, deepest work has resulted from a session I expected to be light and airy but he 'found' something and ran with it....

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I stopped trying to plan or predict my session a long time ago, and I for me it made my therapy much more productive actually and certainly less stressful. So, the session outcomes are always a "surprise" in that they have been allowed to happened very naturally.

[stopdog]

The first one I see has admitted to no structure and it drove me crazy so I impose one. She cannot be trusted with it. No structure or at least her refusal to explain the structure and her keeping it a secret pissed me off.
The second has more structure and I can maneuver within what I understand as the basic framework.

[always_wondering]

Originally Posted by Oceanwave

Do you experience something similar in real life? For instance, you have a goal or focus but then things turn out differently? Perhaps this is something you'd need to work on and definitely mention to your therapist.

I set goals for myself on a daily basis. This how I get things done. When I go to see T, I have issues I want to discuss and get to the heart of. I'm determined! But, sometimes we get off track and on those days, I kind of come out of therapy feeling unsatisfied.