[CantExplain]

I think Madame T has forgotten about me.
I asked for an appointment and she said she'd get back to me but that was a month ago.

[anilam]

Yeah seems that way... Sucks, esp given what she meant/means to you.
Looks like she needs a reminder, if you still want to see her.

[Petra5ed]

OK, I hope this isn't mean, but this is what I really think... I figure if I was in your shoes I'd want to know. She didn't forget. You asked to meet with her for a better ending with more understanding, and she replied saying she needed you to do certain things before she could meet with you again. You wrote her back and said basically, no, I don't think I'll do that, but I will be making an appointment to see you again. ?! I'm sorry but that's not how any healthy adult operates. You think she's just going to roll over and say, oh you're right, actually I don't need you to do those things in order to see you again, thanks for clarifying my opinion for me.

In my mind she probably is just fed up going around in the same circle with you. You obviously have no respect for her, or her opinion or anything, you just really just want her to do the whole thing your way on your terms. Maybe in her mind this is a better ending. This way you'll be really angry and get over her.

[IndestructibleGirl]

Wait - have I missed something in the time I've been away? I thought how it was left with Madame T was that you guys were going to work out a time when she was back at work from wherever she had to go?? What were the 'conditions' she put on you being able to come and see her again?

[unaluna]

I think there is a method to their madness. We have to give up our old defenses because they are not serving us in the present time. The trick is to find a t we can feel comfortable doing that with. Then we end up exchanging those defenses for healthy boundaries and the ability to be vulnerable with the right people. Wow what was in that tea i was drinking last night?!

[stopdog]

The therapist agreed to see him and said she was going to be gone for a while but would contact him to schedule an appointment when she got back.

CE - she may not have had time yet. It may be that you need to call and remind her.

Originally Posted by hankster

I think there is a method to their madness. We have to give up our old defenses because they are not serving us in the present time. The trick is to find a t we can feel comfortable doing that with. Then we end up exchanging those defenses for healthy boundaries and the ability to be vulnerable with the right people. Wow what was in that tea i was drinking last night?!

I dunno but can I have some? LOL

[Favorite Jeans]

I think I missed some developments along the way. I'm sorry CE, that can't feel good.

[tooski]

Originally Posted by Petra5ed

OK, I hope this isn't mean, but this is what I really think... I figure if I was in your shoes I'd want to know. She didn't forget. You asked to meet with her for a better ending with more understanding, and she replied saying she needed you to do certain things before she could meet with you again. You wrote her back and said basically, no, I don't think I'll do that, but I will be making an appointment to see you again. ?! I'm sorry but that's not how any healthy adult operates. You think she's just going to roll over and say, oh you're right, actually I don't need you to do those things in order to see you again, thanks for clarifying my opinion for me.

In my mind she probably is just fed up going around in the same circle with you. You obviously have no respect for her, or her opinion or anything, you just really just want her to do the whole thing your way on your terms. Maybe in her mind this is a better ending. This way you'll be really angry and get over her.

This is my recollection of the situation also.

CE, I think you need to *negotiate* with Madame T. My T keeps emphasizing that relationships must be constantly renegotiated, and I'm gradually coming to see what he means. Madame T agreed to meet with you again if you saw another T for ... I forget what, but you ignored what she said and just asked for another appt. I think you need to address what she said rather than just ignoring it.

See who? For how many sessions? Will she absolutely not make another appt with you unless you do? You need to have a conversation with her, a dialogue and work this out.

The r/s should not be a power struggle, with a winner and loser, but a negotiation between two human beings. I hope you'll reconsider this.

I truly feel you have a lot to work out with Madame T, and if you can, it will help you grow and improve other r/s in your life.

[stopdog]

I think she is treating CE shabbily. She agreed to meet him and said she would set up an appointment when she returned. It has nothing to do with any absurd conditions or anything else. She may have forgotten or she may not be back yet.

[JaneC]

Has she returned from her holiday yet? Wasn't she going to Europe? It is conceivable to take a good few weeks for a trip like that.

I went and stayed about 10 years! Not saying she would do that lol

[rainbow8]

I also recall you posting that Madame T wrote she would see you after you worked out something with another T. If that is the case you need to contact her again, especially if you aren't clear on what she meant. Good luck!