[lunatic soul]

I see that all my issues right now is about something sexual.
I think my current T isnt right person to talk about it.
I can see another T but Im afraid he/she wouldnt answer to my questions because maybe they must not.
My girfriends dont talk about sex and stuff like that at all.
My only hope is friends (two boys) but its a risk to talk about sex with boys.
Okay I can read books or watch movies about it.
I really dont know where to go, I dont want to get in troubles, I feel like everyone thinks Im bad person. I feel like Im losing my mind. I feel like noone else in this world can help me. Maybe I just need to learn everything by myself and make mistakes and get in troubles.

[guilloche]

Why do you think your T isn't a good person to talk to about this stuff? Could you broach the subject gently... tell him or her that it's really hard, but you need some help with this stuff, and ask if they'd be able to discuss it with you?

If it's medical-type questions, you might try your regular doctor, or a nurse's line if your insurance has that?

If you have an employee assistance program through work, you could call and talk to someone there (it should be confidential, they don't tell your job who calls or why).

If you're at school, could you try the school counseling center?

Depending on what you're trying to figure out, there actually may be good, helpful, factual books available?

You could try one of those anonymous chats (like "7cupsoftea" - but you don't know how much training people get, and probably want to be careful of others' boundaries - just ask if they're open to talking about this stuff.)

re: Talking to friends who are boys... how much do you trust them? How much do you think they actually know? I'd probably try a book or professional first, to make sure you get accurate information.

Hope that gives you some ideas...

[lunatic soul]

Originally Posted by guilloche

Why do you think your T isn't a good person to talk to about this stuff? Could you broach the subject gently... tell him or her that it's really hard, but you need some help with this stuff, and ask if they'd be able to discuss it with you?

If it's medical-type questions, you might try your regular doctor, or a nurse's line if your insurance has that?

If you have an employee assistance program through work, you could call and talk to someone there (it should be confidential, they don't tell your job who calls or why).

If you're at school, could you try the school counseling center?

Depending on what you're trying to figure out, there actually may be good, helpful, factual books available?

You could try one of those anonymous chats (like "7cupsoftea" - but you don't know how much training people get, and probably want to be careful of others' boundaries - just ask if they're open to talking about this stuff.)

re: Talking to friends who are boys... how much do you trust them? How much do you think they actually know? I'd probably try a book or professional first, to make sure you get accurate information.

Hope that gives you some ideas...

Thanks for suggestions.
Its about my sexual obsessions and having no experience jusst from what I read on internet. I really need to talk openly to someone who has experience in relationships and sex but there is noone. I just dont believe that T could talk openly to me about it.
My current T is man and he is hot so I think I need neutral person to talk about it. None of T would share their experiences in situations so its nonsense. Okay my ex doctor told me that men dobt like crying and depressed and suicidal women. At least one person told me what he thinks. I think Im not attractive enough to make someone want me and it destroys me. I dont know how to act with a man, I ruin everything and my disasters make me want to die. I hate myself. Im ready to go to hell to get a man wwhat I want. Im just despereate.
Ts just ask questions but rarely give useful suggestions and opinions. They also think about ethic too much. I need someone to learn me to be in relationships etc.
I even asked my friend to tell me the future (he uses Taro) but then I staryed to afraid of Gods judgement and now I feel helpless. I dont afraid of hell if it exists but Im afraid of destroying my relationships or being jugded by the God and lose person who I love.

[junkDNA]

are u melania?

[lunatic soul]

Originally Posted by junkDNA

are u melania?

Me?
No, its not my name but I wont say my name, I dont have to.
If I knew you outside this forum (or someone else) and they recognise its me I would be horryfied if they write here- are you Melania? Or maybe you are Anne from my highschool class?
By the way if you think you know me and want me to know who you are you can just pm me
I think its not nice if you start to guess on persons post who he/she is.

[winter4me]

You might really benefit from seeing a female t, might have to shop around a bit but it could really help----(& you may not want one who seems too "perfect" to you.) If you have a good school nurse, they can be very helpful. It doesn't sound as though you are describing something that is uncommon---you feel it is because you are unable to share right now---do it with a safe adult first. ((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))) Believe me, things change over time. And sex is a Huge part of most people's lives and thoughts, in this society I think it is something we all struggle with in one way or another. But you need not struggle alone.

[junkDNA]

Originally Posted by lunatic soul

Me?
No, its not my name but I wont say my name, I dont have to.
If I knew you outside this forum (or someone else) and they recognise its me I would be horryfied if they write here- are you Melania? Or maybe you are Anne from my highschool class?
By the way if you think you know me and want me to know who you are you can just pm me
I think its not nice if you start to guess on persons post who he/she is.

sorry. i thought u were someone else. no i do not know u from off the internet. sorry if i offended u.

Perhaps you can visit a sex therapist once or twice?

[growlycat]

Originally Posted by lunatic soul

Me?
No, its not my name but I wont say my name, I dont have to.
If I knew you outside this forum (or someone else) and they recognise its me I would be horryfied if they write here- are you Melania? Or maybe you are Anne from my highschool class?
By the way if you think you know me and want me to know who you are you can just pm me
I think its not nice if you start to guess on persons post who he/she is.

I don't think you understand. Melania as far as I know isn't a real name, just a handle of someone else on PC. Your writing style and issues are very similar to hers. I don't think anyone is trying to "out" your real identity. I think we just want to understand the bigger picture.

Often people will "quit" pc but come back under a different name

[lunatic soul]

Originally Posted by Breadfish

Perhaps you can visit a sex therapist once or twice?

I was thinking about that option but it would be really embarresing just to see sex therapist but it could be helpful.

[lunatic soul]

Originally Posted by growlycat

I don't think you understand. Melania as far as I know isn't a real name, just a handle of someone else on PC. Your writing style and issues are very similar to hers. I don't think anyone is trying to "out" your real identity. I think we just want to understand the bigger picture.

Often people will "quit" pc but come back under a different name

I cant even find a words to say how weird it makes me feel.
I think that many of us has similar issues but still we are not the same.
I was searching for this username you mentioned. I dont want to say anything about her because maybe she reads it but I think that our experiences with our Ts are not the same, mine never crossed the line and Im in love with my friend but like some of us I find my T attractive but it doesnt mean I want him to be my boyfriend lol.
I dont understand why people should quit the forum and go back and start to tell the same things if they already know opinions. I dont want to jugde anyone.