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Sep 12, 2014, 10:58 PM
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Sep 12, 2014, 11:20 PM
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LCM is basically my mom and I have a hard time telling her. Because it is all fantasy and fantasy can be harder yo tell about than stuff that happened. Fantasy is more what I think I'd like BUTI dinner know. Could me antithetical and I had to pick output
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Sep 12, 2014, 11:25 PM
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Don't have much to discuss about sex. But if I did, it would be uncomfortable.
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Sep 12, 2014, 11:32 PM
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Sep 13, 2014, 05:34 AM
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Sep 13, 2014, 06:10 AM
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Not even sure why I would need to talk about it. Maybe perhaps the lack of it that I am getting, or the lack of desire to have sex with my H or the way I will use it to get the attention I need from men that makes me feel valuable and worthy. He is not that kind of T that would explore this any. It would make him feel more uncomfortable than it would for me.
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Sep 13, 2014, 07:15 AM
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My T is very comfortable talking about it and it is very relevant to the work we are doing but I feel so uncomfortable talking about it. It has helped in the past to write it down and bring that in.
She said that one of the things she thinks we should explore are fantasies - I'm horrified at the idea. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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#33
Sep 13, 2014, 07:27 AM
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Me too. Yeah, I know that I can supposedly say anything - but I'm not sure what I should say that is appropriate. Though when I think I have been graphic, she thinks I haven't been. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Sep 13, 2014, 01:22 PM
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Talking about sexual experiences has not seemed to be a problem, but talking about not having sexual experiences has. Depression has reduced my drive and interest to almost zero. I probably should talk about it, but for some reason that seems more difficult than talking about sex itself. Not sure why.
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Sep 13, 2014, 05:27 PM
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I used to have a very very hard time with this subject, and at times i still have a bit of a challenge with it, but T is so at ease talking about all things related to sexuality that it has gotten much easier for me.
I have one alter who is ten years old and talks to T about sexuality often. We never talked about such things in my family, so i am thankful that T is so easy to talk to about it. |
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Sep 14, 2014, 12:32 AM
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My T is very casual about discussing sex and has told me it's all right to say anything. However, it has been difficult for me to get the words out. I used to not even be able to say the words "my body" to her but I got used to it because of her always asking me "where in your body do you feel that?" I still have trouble saying anatomy and sexual words and will hesitate or make my T guess what I'm trying to say.
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Sep 19, 2014, 11:39 AM
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Thanks everyone for the replies and sorry I haven't replied to them all.
I am just burying my head in the sand and hoping this topic will go away, that my T wont remember I mentioned it....not likely, my T has a very good memory for things that I say!
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Sep 19, 2014, 10:18 PM
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Welllll.....
I knew from the beginning that I wanted to talk to a female T because I thought I'd feel more comfortable opening up to her. But I also thought in advance about the fact that certain things I'd rather kick around with a guy whether he was my T or not, like sex stuff. So my meds caused some sexual dysfunction. I cracked myself up that I couldn't even say that in front of her. I said I was having "man problems." I felt like a 13 year old kid, almost giggling at myself. |
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Sep 19, 2014, 10:49 PM
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Session before last T just randomly came out with 'so what's your fantasy?...' I went into a big long ramble-y mumble about wanting to be safe. Yeah. No. Today he straight out told me I'm avoiding talking about my sexuality. I told him I don't have time for that right now. And it's true. I don't. Sex is waaaaay far down my list of things to worry about now. I want a daytime job that matches my qualifications, a divorce, joint custody of my kids, a life and some good friends. Then maybe I can think about sex 
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