[healed84]

This is all new to me... T's old office, there was a waiting room right outside of T's office. He would either come out and say you can go ahead and he stopped in at reception real quick or went to the bathroom. Or he would just call me in and wait outside his door to come in.

Now, T's new building you wait out in a waiting room away from all the offices, and he opens a door to the back where all the offices are and we have to walk to his office. Sometimes, we walk next to each other, sometimes he has lead me, but other times I just walk as fast as I can into his office and leave him in the lurch.. lol. The times that I have done that, has thrown him off and he starts off by asking is everything is ok. How do you do it?? Does anybody else feel awkward having to walk together with T to their office?

[Jamles]

My last therapist I had to do this and yes it does feel awkward. Just try to relax. Smile if you feel like.

[precaryous]

T comes out to the waiting room to get me and walks back with me. When I leave, she walks out with me to the waiting room and opens the door for me to leave, as if I was/were a guest in her home. It's cute.

If we have a late session, she goes all the way down the elevator with me and makes sure I make it to my car. It's touching to turn and see this motherly figure through the glass double doors making sure I'm all right.

[brillskep]

I like walking beside my therapist. He used to work in a house with a garden and the gate was always locked, so he would come pick me up and we would walk together to the house. I loved how we would always notice new flowers in bloom together. I miss that. Now he still walks me in and out but it's just an apartment. I miss looking at the flowers together.

[brillskep]

Originally Posted by precaryous

T comes out to the waiting room to get me and walks back with me. When I leave, she walks out with me to the waiting room and opens the door for me to leave, as if I was/were a guest in her home. It's cute.

That's lovely. My therapist also does this but I take it for granted because he used to work at his home and now he doesn't anymore. Thanks for reminding me to appreciate the small things in life and therapy.

[BlessedRhiannon]

I usually walk next to or just a step or two behind my therapist as we walk back to her office. I don't like having people behind me. We either walk in silence or make small talk about the weather, traffic, whatever.

When I still saw her in person, she'd come out to get me, and then we'd walk down the hallway to her office. A narrow hallway so we didn't walk side by side, usually I went first so she could lock the door behind me. If her dog was there, I'd play with her as I walked cuz she always came out to get me too. If I was in a silly mood sometimes I would walk backwards and tease t about something or talk about the weather. Sigh, I get wistful at times for those in-person days....

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[ruiner]

Originally Posted by artemis-within

When I still saw her in person, she'd come out to get me, and then we'd walk down the hallway to her office. A narrow hallway so we didn't walk side by side, usually I went first so she could lock the door behind me. If her dog was there, I'd play with her as I walked cuz she always came out to get me too. If I was in a silly mood sometimes I would walk backwards and tease t about something or talk about the weather. Sigh, I get wistful at times for those in-person days....

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I'm totally going to do this tomorrow. Maybe even try to moonwalk a bit if I can pull it off.

[Mikeyboy]

I always hold the door open for her and let her walk ahead of me. I do not like walking side by side with people I'm not super close to, and I don't like anyone walking behind me.

[Aloneandafraid]

I always do a little dance step thing at the front door to allow her to go up the narrow staircase first as I don't want her to see me from behind! It's really weird the way I have to step around to allow this to happen. I then follow her along a corridor to the room. When we end she always goes down the stairs first and shows me the door. It is kind of sweet but she can't wait to get rid of me! Xx

[Polibeth]

My t's office is down a short hallway. I usually walk ahead (sometimes she needs to use the restroom and tells me to go ahead and wait). I never thought much about it!

[stopdog]

I don't like the therapist walking behind me - it does not feel safe at all to have them out of my line of vision.

[healed84]

It is so interesting to see everyone's point of view on this. The actual walking to the office makes me nervous, I never thought about T walking about behind me. I also, can't imagine T walking me back out either.. walking in with me is enough for me!

[granite1]

I walk behind my T when she comes to get me and brings me to her office . I cant stand if she walks behind me at all . she did it once and it sent me into a tail spin

[Eliza Jane]

My T's practice is in an old house (not hers) and we have to walk upstairs to get to her office. Usually, she comes halfway down and then I see her and follow her up. That's fine. Occasionally, she will need to place something in the waiting room and I will end up walking up ahead if her. I'm so worried she's judging my fat butt and I feel so self-conscious!

My Ts office is in an old Victorian house that's converted into offices. My appt is at 8 pm on a Friday night and no other Ts have clients that night so she just stands at the top of the stairs and calls me up.... Usually it's "RTS come on up". One week she stood at the top of the stairs and said "next"... When I walked up the stairs I said..."sounds like you wish you were done for the night"... She just laughed ....

[sailorboy]

The hallway is long! I don't like when T stops halfway and tries to talk to me because I'm afraid of getting too physically close.

[junkDNA]

T and i dont usually meet in an office anymore. sometimes we walk around outside. when that happens most of the time we walk side by side but sometimes i feel like walking behind him and just following him.

[ScarletPimpernel]

My T opens the door and tells me to come back. I walk into the "hall" and wait for her to go to her office. I follow her in and sit on the couch. She clises the door and sits in her chair.

When we leave, we both stand up and hug. She opens the office door. I walk out first and wait for her. We walk to the waiting room door and I open it and close it behind me...then walk as fast as I can to the parking lot...lol.

I hate people walking behind me, so this routine works for me.

[growlycat]

CBT T comes to get me in the waiting room. The walk from waiting room to the first door makes me anxious; I feel exposed as he is watching me. There is a hallway to his office and he always walks in front of me, which irritates me that he is leading and not walking next to me. But then we get to the door of his office and he holds it open for me and lets me go first.

He is really big on holding doors open. Makes my heart beat a little faster.

[RedSun]

Ummmm...
She opens the door, then I walk through and she follows...no hang, she went in first today. Once she had to just walk in and wait for me to follow cos I couldn't move!
Old cbt t used to lead the way though once I got to the door first at the session and it was locked! wtf!

[Terabithia]

What a great question - YES I feel awkward! My therapist's office is all the way at the end of a hall. I feel more comfortable with her walking ahead of me - I don't know why but I feel rude walking ahead of her, but she always seems to put me in this position. Walking side by side makes me feel like I need to be having a conversation with her since the hallway is so long. This is uncomfortable because I like to keep all conversation that's not light - how are you doing, etc. - in the office, and it's too long of a walk to keep it light.

[nicoleflynn]

My t always comes and gets me (very short walk); we leave together (on the rare occasion that he has to stay), he stands at the door and watches me leave.

[stopdog]

At the end, the therapist remains seated until I am out of the office area completely. I made sure of this. I hated it when the woman tried to walk me out. I found it so invasive.

[brillskep]

Interesting talk about walking with the therapist behind ... I used to worry about that too years back when I started therapy, but now I got used to it and just enjoy it. I mean, I'm a woman and my therapist is a man and in this country it is considered bad manners for a man not to let a woman go into a room first or go first when the path is narrow etc. Sometimes my therapist made a visible effort to allow me to go first even if he was in front of me and the place was small. I actually think that's cute.