Confused if I should raise a concern about this therapist

I'm confused if I should raise a concern about this therapist I saw only three times before I decided I couldn't join her group. I don't want to complain about her as such as I don't think what happened is that significant but I'm not sure.

Session 1
Her approach, I can only describe, was like a bull in a china shop. During our v first session she spoke about sex, gulp...........penetration etc amongst other things (my issue is social anxiety).

Session 2
This was okay

Session 3 (final session)
Her trouser flies were undone (I know this is no biggi but you know when u begin to dislike a something, even minor things are annoying....anyways ignore the bit about the flies!)

She said she couldn't be as good as my previous T (tbh the session wasn't about her)

She asked, out of the blue, what I thought of this political group that are murdering innocent people as we share the same religion! In that moment I felt so many things at once, I was taken by surprise, I felt judged and I felt I had to reassure her that I didn't hold the same views as this group.

I mean, as part of her assessment sessions was she dumb enough to ask Christians what they thought of the KKK or Hitler?

Anyways, after that question I felt i couldn't continue with her but I've thought about what she asked me ever since & it makes me sad to think that a therapist could be SO narrow minded & to be frank.......stupid.

So I'm wondering if I should just leave it & chalk it up as a bad experience or if I should raise a concern with the body she comes under (I don't really want to complain as such as its prob not a big deal).

The only thing is, I was given her leaflet by the clinic I attended & perhaps they shouldn't be kinda recommending her services.

Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you

Bentay, sorry you had bad experiences with your therapist. Obviously you have to make this decision (given other factors that are important) but in my view I would consider switching therapists (in addition to raising concern of course). I had a somewhat similar experience years ago and just switched (I also had social anxiety and was afraid of raising concern and what it would mean or if I had to confront anybody, funny how things work, going for social anxiety and then that happens, lol).

This person doesn't seem to be as sensitive or respectful as one would expect of therapists. Religion, politics, culture, sexuality, those are things that even non-therapists know to approach carefully and respectfully. They involve people's identities and beliefs and to question them or approach them carelessly is like you're invalidating people or expressing your own bigotry. If a therapist is unable to do so or if a therapist is narrow-minded to the extent of judging you for your religion or sex or politics or whatever, they really should not be a therapist.

Whether you're Chinese and being questioned about actions of communists or you're Jewish and being questions about Israeli actions or you're Muslim and being questioned about some extremist group, it is very hard not to feel judged. Especially when it happens in the first few sessions.

Perhaps this is about self-awareness (and if you are not aware that your fly is open...) and about self control (if she not gonna be as a good your last therapist, maybe that's HER fear?), both of which are very important part of being a therapist. I'm not saying she's a horrible person (of course I don't know her and hard to tell based on only a post) but I feel like you have enough reasons to want to see what other options you have. It's so important to feel at ease and comfortable around your therapist. You're about to share private things and let yourself be guided by this person. So makes sense to be more careful. Okay, so good luck.

Hello Bentay: I can only say, if I had the kind of experience it sounds like you had, I believe I would want to report it to someone. There are simply too many oddities here. Good luck with this!

Thank you so much Partless your post made a lot of sense - I'm not seeing her any more. Skeezyks thank you for the reassurance

That would make me uneasy too. So many things she talked or asked about seem completely unrelated to the issue you came in with. She seems to have pre conceived notions about your religion too. That would bother me a lot if I was a religious person.

Glad you aren't seeing her anymore. In my case, I have enough problems without a kooky T.

Thank you Bentay. Hopefully your knew therapist will be more sensitive and understanding. And remember to zip up.