[puzzclar]

I've been in a therapy group with three other people. for 3 years. I'm viewed as the one that has it most together, not someone as weak or in big trouble. I talked with my therapist (one that all three of them know). What all three of them don't know is I've been going down hill. T also pointed out one thing. If things went bad and something happened, it could set all three back awhile. That's stuck with me for the last few hours. and at the same time it doesn't help. Makes things worse. Then I was out with some friends and almost had a panic attack. Some how I stopped it from happening. I just needed to vent, I'm hoping it helps the most but so far my mind is stuck. How do I get it off this and on to say... homework? There's so much I need to get done, yet I'm having a hard time focusing.

(for less confusing see blog, but trigger warning on blog)

[Travelinglady]

Hmmm. Is there anything you can do about that situation now? Does it help to worry? If not, then try to focus on the present.

And talk to your therapist about it the next appointment.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by puzzclar

T also pointed out one thing. If things went bad and something happened, it could set all three back awhile.

I don't think it is fair for T to lay this responsibility on you. There is no rule that you have to be "the strong one". Why shouldn't they support you for a change?

[puzzclar]

Well I put all of it behind me until the test was over. Then it all came back, partly because I just sat around not doing much for the last 2 hours.

Group meets tomorrow. I'm not going to lie, I'm a bit scared.

[wotchermuggle]

You're not the therapist. You shouldn't have to be strong for other people in the group. The point of group therapy is to support and learn from each other. There is a lot to learn in seeing that EVERYONE struggles.

[Freewilled]

You can be honest. I would hope that is what your T would want you to do. Being authentic is so important....and it gives the other group members a chance to listen and support you. It can feel good to get to be the supportive one for a change. In fact, it could actually help them in their own recovery process to get to be on the other side, you know?