I used to wish my ex-T would smile more. I feel the same with new T. She barely smiles at all. Usually the whole session with only one moment that she smiles. How much do your T's smile?

[AnxiousGirl]

Usually I sort of talk in a way that sounds funny (how I form my wording) so she laughs at that. I have a sarcastic tone thats why :P But usually she smiles a lot unless were talking about emotional things during which for some reason I start smiling and she just looks at me in a serious face.

[Ellahmae]

My T smiles and laughs a lot, appropriately of course. I like her 'thank you that touched me in my soul smile' the best.

[CantExplain]

This is a serious sore point with me.

Madame T used to be a high school teacher and part of her classroom control strategy was to withhold her smile. And now she uses that on her patients.

I hate it I hate it I hate it!

[stopdog]

Too much for my tastes

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by Brown Owl

I used to wish my ex-T would smile more. I feel the same with new T. She barely smiles at all. Usually the whole session with only one moment that she smiles. How much do your T's smile?

Have you discussed this with her?

He always offers a fake smile when he greets me. But we usually share a laugh or two during session where he really smiles. It makes me feel good.

[ejayy78]

My t always smiles and laughs when the time is right. It's always genuine and I appreciate that about her. We share a similar sense of humor, so it's rare for us not to laugh at least once during a session.

[RedSun]

Y'know, like, about right. Not lots, but when she does it feels genuine. She laughs sometimes too (if I say something funny, not because I'm a twat)

Did you ever bring it up with your t, current or ex t brown owl?
I know my t smiles a lot and we laugh a lot in session but I know ts who wouldn't dream of laughing or smiling because they take it all very serious. To me a smile says much more than a scowl!
It depends on how important it is and this sounds important to you Brown Owl, I do hope you can bring it up with your t.

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[atisketatasket]

Both of mine smile when appropriate, but usually in reaction to me. They're serious when they need to be, as am I.

I dunno...maybe a third of the time? At least a quarter anyway.

[LonesomeTonight]

My T smiles and laughs at appropriate times, as some previous posters mentioned. Occasional joking.

My marriage counselor does a lot of joking around with us, so lots of smiling and laughing there. But he can also be serious when need be.

My p-doc gives lots of sympathetic smiles when I'm talking about depression and anxiety. She doesn't really joke around though.

I guess he smiles appropriately. I never really noticed it as being in any way out of the ordinary.

I don't want to offend her by bringing it up, but I might find a way. Your Ts all seem to smile so much. Is it because I'm so serious? I've never joked with her. I joke a lot at home with my husband and kids.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by Brown Owl

I don't want to offend her by bringing it up.

The rules say you are allowed to offend your T. The idea is that you should feel free to speak your mind.

[Chummy]

My T smiles when it's appropriate. She smiles often. Sometimes she makes a few jokes. She welcomes me with a smile and says goodbye with a smile.

My pdoc gives me a small smile when saying hello and goodbye. And maybe he also smiles sometimes during the appointment, but I don't look at his face a lot.

[wotchermuggle]

Originally Posted by CantExplain

This is a serious sore point with me.

Madame T used to be a high school teacher and part of her classroom control strategy was to withhold her smile. And now she uses that on her patients.

I hate it I hate it I hate it!

Did she ever explain the supposed strategy behind this? I work with kids and happy emotion is never something to withhold, in my opinion.

My T knows that men and smiling and sex get all mooshed in my brain so he I think he limits the amount of smiling with me, but periodically he goes through phases where he becomes more smile-y and teasing which makes me wonder if there is something wrong with him

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by wotchermuggle

Did she ever explain the supposed strategy behind this? I work with kids and happy emotion is never something to withhold, in my opinion.

She says she feels a wider range of emotions if she doesn't smile.

Originally Posted by CantExplain

She says she feels a wider range of emotions if she doesn't smile.

Are you sure she didn't have the therapeutic relationship confused in her mind. She did know she was the therapist, right?

[ScarletPimpernel]

My T smiles a lot. We also laugh a lot even if it's just to break the tension. I don't think she smiles too much. I actually think she needs to work on her concern face more.

[iheartjacques]

He greets me with a mega watt smile most times. Sometimes he will smile if we are talking about something happy. Other times he laughs when I make some sarcastic comment.

[velcro003]

My T likes to use humor in therapy, so she smiles and laughs throughout the session if appropriate.

[PinkFlamingo99]

She laughs at my stupid jokes, which I love. My pdoc just stares at me and it makes me SO uncomfortable

[atisketatasket]

Originally Posted by CantExplain

She says she feels a wider range of emotions if she doesn't smile.

um...is the therapy she does all about her?