The end of the 50 minutes

Sep 23, 2014, 12:10 AM

The more I think about it (not based on what I read here) the more I realise that I would not want T to do anything differently. Well, maybe offer longer appointments.

feralkittymom · Sep 23, 2014, 06:14 AM

I always had 60 min sessions. In his private practice, there were times when we'd end on time, but if I were upset, I'd stay in the office while he went to the other room to do notes, etc. Then he'd come back to check on me; sometimes I'd just leave then, sometimes we'd talk for a few more minutes. I have a good internal clock, so I'd always feel when time was ending, and he'd wind down gently. Often we'd just sit silently for the last couple of minutes. I often found that very calming.

musinglizzy · Sep 23, 2014, 07:30 AM

Chartres, that kinda happened to me yesterday. http://forums.psychcentral.com/psych...d-session.html

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Originally Posted by Chartres

There has been times my T is skillful at this and there go have been times he has been been unskillful at it. In the early months, he would grab his appointment and this would be a cue that we were about to end. He would say something like confirming our next appointment. Now that we have a regular schedule, he doesn't do this anymore. Most of the time he says "were going to need to end soon" or "let's continue this next time" or "this is a good place to end". This generally works okay for me unless I'm in the middle of really difficult stuff.

I had a horrible experience once where he ended abruptly and I was unable to pull myself together afterwards. The aftermath was dangerous. I still think he bordered on negligence with that one by letting me leave in that state.

Now, during really difficult sessions, he will tell me "we have 10 minutes left" or " have you noticed the time?" when there is 10-15 minutes left. This feels cold to me but I up understand that he is trying to avoid what happened before. I think he could improve in this area.

musinglizzy · Sep 23, 2014, 07:34 AM

I posted something similar to this last night, but my post is not as popular as this one. My time in therapy (50 minutes) goes by REALLY fast.... I really, unless looking at the clock, have no concept of time....and it just gets away from me. But I left in a bad state yesterday, and feel the end of the session should have been handled better than it was. SHE'S the professional. http://forums.psychcentral.com/psych...d-session.html

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